hearttobreak Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 I did a quick kiss on the lips at the end of the first date. It was not a slide by or quick turn, I went in directly for her lips. Second date, I am picking her up at her home. Is it too forward for me to kiss her on the lips at the beginning of the date when she opens the door? She was smiling at the end of the first date after the first quick kiss, so I think that was a positive sign.
BobSacamento Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 That is something you do when your in a relationship. I usually wait until the end of the date before making any moves like that. If anything, go for a hug.
Author hearttobreak Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 Hug is too informal. Since we did already do the first kiss, what is the harm in giving her a hug and a kiss? Not a long french one, just a quick peck on the lips. Then, at the end of the date, a longer one.
BobSacamento Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Personally I wouldn't do it. After one date, I really don't know her that well. For me to go in for a kiss, even a peck, I want to be 100% I won't get a pull away. You get a pull away at the start of the date you are just setting yourself up for an awkward night. Just how I look at it.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 OP, yes. kiss her from the jump. you've both established that ground; don't make things odd by not acknowledging where you two are in your relationship. you kissed her; she liked it; you liked it; & you both agreed to see each other again. you've got my vote, OP. doing so only increases the likelihood of sex sooner, IMO.
alexlakeman Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 kiss her on the lips... I just came out of a 3 wks dating... and after the 3rd date we made out.. she later said that she would've made out with me after the first date... seems to be the norm... lol... she obviously likes YOU when you are going on another date.. I'd give her a kiss on the lips "hello"... she WON'T push you away at this point, imo...
MorningCoffee Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Hug is too informal. Since we did already do the first kiss, what is the harm in giving her a hug and a kiss? Not a long french one, just a quick peck on the lips. Then, at the end of the date, a longer one. I'd wait till towards the end of your next time together. Why? You set the stage by the first-date kiss. Now through the second date, she will be anticipating what's going to happen. She'll be wondering, "will he kiss me again?" "will it be even nicer than before?" "how is this going to go?" That's the positive tension you want to have with her. Then go for the kiss.
Author hearttobreak Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 I'd wait till towards the end of your next time together. Why? You set the stage by the first-date kiss. Now through the second date, she will be anticipating what's going to happen. She'll be wondering, "will he kiss me again?" "will it be even nicer than before?" "how is this going to go?" That's the positive tension you want to have with her. Then go for the kiss. It was really hard not to go in for a second kiss at the end of the first date. When she opens the door, I am pretty sure she'll be expecting a hug and a quick kiss. At the end, when I drop her off, a more involved kiss. This was how it went with all my other first dates that ended with a kiss. Granted, they kissed me first, but a kiss on the first date none the less. I think, if she was on the fence with me or not sure, why would she give me her address to pick her up at her place? Most women that I've dated who agreed for a second date, we met somewhere. I take that as a positive sign too.
MorningCoffee Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 It was really hard not to go in for a second kiss at the end of the first date. When she opens the door, I am pretty sure she'll be expecting a hug and a quick kiss. At the end, when I drop her off, a more involved kiss. This was how it went with all my other first dates that ended with a kiss. Granted, they kissed me first, but a kiss on the first date none the less. I think, if she was on the fence with me or not sure, why would she give me her address to pick her up at her place? Most women that I've dated who agreed for a second date, we met somewhere. I take that as a positive sign too. Well, then, you've got advice pro and you've got advice con. You appear to have decided what you're going to do, so go for it.
Author hearttobreak Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 Hope I don't screw it up. You've seen the scoreboard on all my last relationships with women. It's not that good.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Take both of her hands and lead her toward you. See if she presents for a kiss, whether she seems to be OK with the lips or wants to do cheeks, or see if she shows any resistance at all. Act accoringly. If she presents lips, you da man. If she presents cheek, you ain't there yet. If she doesn't present at all, just beam a hello smile while touching those hands. She may want to go slower, so be sensitive to her cues. It's amazing how easy this all is when your at rest with it yourself.
Star Gazer Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 I wouldn't do it. You'll destroy all anticipation for the remainder of the date.
Author hearttobreak Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 I always thought a kiss hello on the second date was okay if you kissed on the first date. It would seem logical. No? At the end of the second date, then a nice passionate kiss good-bye. I've done that before with much success. I read in her profile, it was an online match, she wants a man who is aggressive and goes after what he wants. If I kiss her on the lips at the end of the first date, and then kiss her at the beginning of the second date on the cheek or just a hug, it seems like a step back, not a step forward.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 I always thought a kiss hello on the second date was okay if you kissed on the first date. It would seem logical. No? At the end of the second date, then a nice passionate kiss good-bye. I've done that before with much success. I read in her profile, it was an online match, she wants a man who is aggressive and goes after what he wants. If I kiss her on the lips at the end of the first date, and then kiss her at the beginning of the second date on the cheek or just a hug, it seems like a step back, not a step forward. Check my post above. I know what you're saying. You think you set the precedent by kissing her already but you're not sure how to greet her this time. You can easily sense what's appropriate by her cues. Check what I wrote above. I know what you're feeling.
Author hearttobreak Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 How do you take her hands with the door there? Plus, if she is like other girls I've picked up at their home, they open the door, leave it open and go for a hug.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 How do you take her hands with the door there? Plus, if she is like other girls I've picked up at their home, they open the door, leave it open and go for a hug. The bottom line is you need to stop obsessing and just react to what you face in reality. If the door is in the way, do what you have to. The point is to put yourself in a position where you can sense what's appropriate. No one can tell you from here what is approriate for her or you--that's your reality and your's alone. So, learn to get comfortable with giving and taking cues in real time so that you don't have to even wonder what to do much less ask internet posters what's right for your situation. Reality reveals itself when you just show up to face it. Maybe I just think fast and deducing what's approriate in real time comes fluidly. But asserting myself is what has trained me to develop skills and confidence in how to treat a lady without worry. You can do it too. Just start now--ease into your greeting with her and keep moving ahead gently. See if she presents her lips, her cheek or ducks. That's all there is to it. Good luck.
Star Gazer Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 I always thought a kiss hello on the second date was okay if you kissed on the first date. It would seem logical. No? At the end of the second date, then a nice passionate kiss good-bye. I've done that before with much success. I read in her profile, it was an online match, she wants a man who is aggressive and goes after what he wants. If I kiss her on the lips at the end of the first date, and then kiss her at the beginning of the second date on the cheek or just a hug, it seems like a step back, not a step forward. By that logic, you'll be giving her anal when she opens the door in about 5 dates. As a woman, I'd personally find a kiss upon opening the door to be presumptuous and almost too comfortable, too relationship-like.
Author hearttobreak Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 By that logic, you'll be giving her anal when she opens the door in about 5 dates. I think that is way too much to ask for. One could only hope. She has a really nice butt.
Author hearttobreak Posted December 15, 2010 Author Posted December 15, 2010 I think it went well. She opened the door and kissed me on the lips. Had great conversation at the pub. She said she really enjoys hanging out with me. Said if she was up for something this weekend, she said sure. She's busy Friday and I'm busy Saturday so it looks like Sunday is the day for # 3. Dropped her off and had a few make out sessions. It was a bit tight as I drive a miata, but I think it went well. Doubtful a woman would make out with a guy who she did not have feelings for. I did not want to push it, I left it at that.
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