Goodguy819 Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Here's the story and whats going on at the moment. My exgirlfriend and I have been highly in love in fact she told me first that she loved and I reciprocated the feelings back. We never took a break per se in October but I had a commitment cross country for 3 1/2 weeks but we remained in contact and when I got back is when she told me she loved me. I have a daughter from my previous marriage which my exgirlfriend adores and cherishes and she even bought her an outfit the night before our breakup. We never argue always compromise and truly are an amazing couple. We have some different views on things and our quirks but its nothing detrimental to a relationship by no means. The week before thanksgiving she wanted me to meet her parents and so did her parents. I did because I love her and was ready. Dinner went great and so on so forth. She had to work thanksgiving holiday and I left to see my family in Georgia. She was invited but wanted to work for extra $$. She would post on my facebook "I love you" and yadda yadda yadda. Well fast forward to weekend before last which was the week after thanksgiving. That friday we go pick my daughter up for the weekend to do xmas decorations and put up our first tree as a couple. The next day she gives me the we need to talk speech. She wanted to break up because she has some feelings for her ex and its around the holidays. Now background info on that is they split beginning of the year and he moved on with some other girl who he lives with and is moving away in a week. He would send random texts to her and she would say stop texting me I would never get back with you. Then he calls her names. Well I guess he texts her saying the holidays aren't the same right now and she told him they won't get back together. Yet she breaks up with me and tells me this reason, and doesn't know how long it will take for her to get over it and wants me to move on and not wait for her to come around. I can agree so I kind of did and been hinting I am doing other things now but still talk off and on briefly. One night she texts me "I love you" I told her to not say it until she means it like I do. Last weekend she asked what I am doing I said out with friends for drinks. She wished me fun and to be safe. I get home and say hi I am home she said glad your safe. Next day she goes hi how are you things are weird not texting you. I said I am good. She goes I am sure you are so did I meet anyone worthwhile or anyone for the meantime. I said no didnt go looking but had fun. Few days ago she tells me she is about over her ex and she found something out about him making it easier for her to move on and tells me last weekend was a lonely weekend. I've kept contact with her brief but still in contact nothing like when we dated. I ask her if she wanted to do something next friday since she was lonely and it would get her out of the house for a few hours nothing crazy. She said depends so I tell her and she said it sounds so romantic but asks me twice if I think it's a good idea. I was like you know what with a =) no worries I was just putting it out there. She ok but it does sound good and it'll be hard to forget you asked me. I send a text saying can I ask you something? She said sure. Well I forgot cause it wasn't important. She says ok if you say so. The next day I get 2 texts asking me what it was I wanted cause she is still intrigued. All it was was about her meatballs and she said I remembered what she does and made a =). Last night I told her look I am here for you day/night, but I am not your crutch. I can't fix it but I can be supportive. I said if I stay and wait that's on me. If I move on and screw up a chance later with you then thats on me. She told me she is thankful for me being there for her during this time and said if she didn't have obstacles things would be different but didnt elaborate. So I know long message but that was 24 hours ago and I hadn't texted her since and she hasn't texted me yet either. So I am waiting it out for a few days to see if she she texts me first. What a novel so I am just looking for some forum guidance aside from what I have read....Your thoughts!!
Author Goodguy819 Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 good song but....anyway I should add after she said she is almost finally over her ex and no worries that she hasn't moved on. I told her thats great she is moving on past him but I understand that doesn't mean we can get together (i was saying this for my sake as in I understand and not getting my hopes up). She says' she isn't happy now and the weekend was lonely.(We were suppose to spend it together)
Author Goodguy819 Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 So I went NC for as long as I could. It only took her a day to start freaking out. She texted me saying "I guess work as you busy huh?" Then 2 hours later she said "Wow. guess you took the advice of your friends to ignore me. I just hope your ok." After blowing my phone up I said I am fine Thank you just busy. I know I broke NC but it was a little better then my phone going off. She said "Glad youre ok. So are you going cold shoulder route on me huh? Let me know what you want."
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