griffinchicken53 Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 how has the internet affected dating? when you online date, you can look at everything on their profile and get a good idea who the person is, their goals, desires, interests, etc. It doesn't seem to leave much to talk about on an actual date. is this a good thing or a bad thing, not sure since i've been unable to get a date in years.
sam light Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 how has the internet affected dating? when you online date, you can look at everything on their profile and get a good idea who the person is, their goals, desires, interests, etc. It doesn't seem to leave much to talk about on an actual date. is this a good thing or a bad thing, not sure since i've been unable to get a date in years. This is a good question and I hpoe it gets more replies. I keep a profile out there on the net. I post a fairly strict criteria for potential dates. Some guys profiles say they'll date anything that has heat. I check in now and then to see the profiles of ladies that viewed mine. I approach some, and a few (over the years) have led to dates. In short, it's just one more way to meet women, definately not the only way. I think people you meet face to face will often check to see if you're on the net, the information there will often be a deal maker or breaker when they're considering dating you.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 how has the internet affected dating? when you online date, you can look at everything on their profile and get a good idea who the person is, their goals, desires, interests, etc. It doesn't seem to leave much to talk about on an actual date. is this a good thing or a bad thing, not sure since i've been unable to get a date in years. It has effectively reversed the order in which the cards come off the deck, about someone. The problem is that a "Joker" is often first off the deck at either end. And, curiously, at times you can ascertain while still on the net that some prospects don't have all the cards in their decks. More seriously, though, the internet plays on the human mind's yearning for imagining **perfection** in everyone they encounter on the net. Then, slowly, the imperfections are spelled out just enough so that the "3% imperfect" person looks/seems as adorable as might somebody with a mere 'bump' on his/her nose, which gives them character (think Jennifer Grey before the dumbest operation of all time). It's pretty easy to woo ourselves to take interest in, and want to meet somebody we (wrongly) perceive as being '97% perfect' (and that goes 10x for people who are MARRIED to someone '70% perfect' at the time {and who are wrongly swayed by the 97% score in comparison} ) If I could give you one bit of advice, it is to do whatever you can to bring the minds of each of you in line with who he/she will actually be meeting on that first evening at a restaurant (or wherever). Even if you have four elbows, if you inform him of that, then he is suddenly *expecting* that in you, and he'll be closer to 'accepting' than are most whom you meet in more traditional dating circles.
Imajerk17 Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 I'd say that women especially are less patient these days. It's either instant chemistry or bust for many of them. I can't tell you how many really good first dates that didn't lead to seconds.
TaraMaiden Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 how has the internet affected dating? when you online date, you can look at everything on their profile and get a good idea who the person is, their goals, desires, interests, etc. It doesn't seem to leave much to talk about on an actual date. is this a good thing or a bad thing, not sure since i've been unable to get a date in years. I deplore it and hold it thoroughly in contempt. Profiles lie. Checking out some of the threads on here talking about how "we met on the internet" bears this out. It's much easier - generally, though by no means always - to catch a lie out in person, and a lot more quickly, than when virtual correspondence is the norm....
dest Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 I deplore it and hold it thoroughly in contempt. Profiles lie. Checking out some of the threads on here talking about how "we met on the internet" bears this out. It's much easier - generally, though by no means always - to catch a lie out in person, and a lot more quickly, than when virtual correspondence is the norm.... I agree with you Tara. A person can say anything online (through profile, chats, & emails), but walking the walk can appear totally different. The last guy I met online made himself out to be this spectacular person through our online communication, but in reality his personality was totally different than he tried to portray online! That guy also had an addiction to talking to me through the internet instead of in person. It was like he knew he was someone different/more desirable there. WEIRD
slownumbers81 Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 I think the internet can be helpful in a lot of ways for dating and meeting people. However, I would also add that the internet affects breakups in a bad way. It can be much harder to get over an ex if you remain friends on a social network or have access to what is going on in their life that you can find out through the internet. Breakups can be much harder and sadness can go on much longer. In short, I'd say the internet is both a blessing and a curse.
hopesndreams Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 how has the internet affected dating? when you online date, you can look at everything on their profile and get a good idea who the person is, their goals, desires, interests, etc. It doesn't seem to leave much to talk about on an actual date. is this a good thing or a bad thing, not sure since i've been unable to get a date in years. Only problem with that is they are usually full of sh*t.
zengirl Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 I wouldn't have met my boyfriend without the internet. We were continents apart when we originally started talking. Now, the internet only takes you so far, however, and you should never get too attached or think you have a real idea of who someone is before clocking significant face-time.
Template Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 Are we specifically referring to internet dating site, or the actual ritual of dating. Personally I don't do well because I don't believe in lying, feels too much like a club scene. However, I do admire the people that CAN pull it off.
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