thatsonlyme Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 not so long ago I was an emotional train wreck. now my life has taken a completely different course and I'm enjoying every moment of it! I'm trying in my posts to give all of you hope. YES you CAN get over your exes, it's all in your head! find what makes you happy and do it! Since I moved back into my old apartment with my new roommate my life has gotten interesting! We went to clubs, after parties, live music, hosted parties at our place... I met so many people that I can't even remember their names anymore! The other day I had a one night stand with a girl I met at an after party, and in the morning my ex walked in to pick up some of her stuff... expression on her face was priceless! few nights ago my roommate's friend invited some of her girlfriends over, then we all hit the club and danced all night! two guys dancing with a bunch of hot girls, all the guys in the club hated us lol. my ex is finally history and my life is getting better every day! if she ever tried to come back I wouldn't even consider taking her back! be positive my friends, if socially awkward person such as myself could make it through, you can too!
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 i'm very happy for you. that's the right spirit my friend. i broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years,and i wasn't sure if i made the right decision,so i came on LS. now,after 3 months i can say i made the best decision ever. i was unhappy with her childish behaviors. i'm guessing after a certain age ,you either grow up or leave me the fk alone. i live in Chicago so here's for sure no shortage of girls,haha
Wink Tobasco Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Yes time always heals. Is there a chance you're just trying very hard to convince yourself your over it? (I'm not sure how long it's been). I don't wish that on you, just asking.
Author thatsonlyme Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 i'm very happy for you. that's the right spirit my friend. i broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years,and i wasn't sure if i made the right decision,so i came on LS. now,after 3 months i can say i made the best decision ever. i was unhappy with her childish behaviors. i'm guessing after a certain age ,you either grow up or leave me the fk alone. i live in Chicago so here's for sure no shortage of girls,haha I live in Chicago too and yeah, no shortage of girls Now I'm working on improving my game but I'm slowly getting there, I can already see signs of improvement. @wink tobasco It's been less than 4 months and yeah, I feel like I'm completely over her. My life is a lot more interesting now. I love being single!
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 Yes time always heals. Is there a chance you're just trying very hard to convince yourself your over it? (I'm not sure how long it's been). I don't wish that on you, just asking. that's the biggest mistake lot of people do,they try to fool themselves that they are over an ex,go out,drink,hook up,do drugs,and then they realize they're back to square 1 again. if you just accept it,deal with the pain and face your fears you'll get over much faster than the other way around. i'm not saying that this would apply to thatsonlyme,it's just a general tought
Author thatsonlyme Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 that's the biggest mistake lot of people do,they try to fool themselves that they are over an ex,go out,drink,hook up,do drugs,and then they realize they're back to square 1 again. if you just accept it,deal with the pain and face your fears you'll get over much faster than the other way around. i'm not saying that this would apply to thatsonlyme,it's just a general tought I absolutely agree! In my case, I went through all the stages: grieving, crying, suffering, facing my fears, trying to improve, drinking, partying and even doing drugs... now I feel like a whole new person! socially awkward and shy person I was only 4 months ago is gone! in short 4 months I met so many people, made new friends, reconnected with old ones and people actually want to hang out with me! my life is more interesting than ever and the girls get interested in me. I really started enjoying being single and I can confidently say that I'm over my ex. the only thing I really miss is sex on regular basis! I'm pretty sure it will soon come either in form of FWB's or a new girlfriend. I think I'm enjoying my newly found freedom so much that I don't even really want another relationship!
Akumark Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 I think you should try to get the most of your situation right now and have a blast doing it. I don't suspect everyone to be like me but my party frenzy went on for 1 years after my breakup, I had become a totaly different person. I was outgoing, charming, was really good with girls in clubs, etc. I really abused alchool and started to develop some old habits again from my previous life (I haven't done drugs because I've been a drugs addict for 10 years before completely stoping). Now after being dumped about a month ago I stoped drinking because I felt someting was wrong inside me and I didn't know what it was...the addiction had come back. Right now I'm almost back to day 1 after I stoped using drugs, I'm shy with girls again , I hardly have the urge to go out, my sex drive is hibernating, I try to work on myself and my self-esteem. I do miss the attractivness I have when I use but It's just not me, right now I really want to give myself a chance and see what I can possibly become if I do work on myself.
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