amarie2011 Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 Hey everyone, so I posted my story over a month ago when my boyfriend broke up with me, we have been pretty much NC since Nov 13th..except for him sending happy thanksgiving. I replied thank you..but no contact was made after that so I think it was a mass text that he sent out so I'm considering my NC start date Nov 13th..well I woke up this morning to a text with him saying hey, is everything ok..I'm not really sure how I should respond or if I should and if I should when? Part of me still wants him back the other part of me doesn't..he didn't even text me on my bday which was 2 days ago but now all of a sudden he'll text me 2 days later..I just don't get it.. this is my story..http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t253821/ Any advice would be appreciated..Thank you.
Leandro Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 Well Happy Late Birthday. No, Don't break NC.
cerridwen Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 He has some nerve contacting you when it's convenient to HIM and not on your birthday when it would have been more thoughtful and meaningful to YOU. Why do you want to respond? Feel rude to ignore it?
PerpetualMotion Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 I don't see the point of you breaking NC. If he had sent you a birthday message... maybe.
WTRanger Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 Is everything Okay? = Can I have some no-strings ex sex? He's just fishing. Unless he sends you a very personal message specific to your situation, ignore it.
Author amarie2011 Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 Thanks everyone for the replies, he text a couple more times after I never responded..the last text was long explaining why he hasn't been able to contact me and apologizing for it being so long then saying he doesn't know when he will be able to contact me again since his parents have been taking his phone away..his parents are strange like that so it makes sense that they would do that because of his grades in school right now but it just seems like if he REALLY wanted to get in contact with me then he could have found a way to at least tell me he wouldn't have his phone for awhile instead of leaving me hanging..it was really hard not to text him back after the last one but I put on my 'coping' music is what I call it and went on with my day I honestly feel like I took a huge step foward in the healing process today..I just hope the feelings last..thanks again everyone..
Leandro Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 you did take a huge step!! You're doing good.
homebrew Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 (edited) In your case, there is no reason for him not to ask to meet / talk to you about your relationship (which is what you want). So until that happens, I do not see the need for a response. If / when he wants you back... He will make it perfectly clear to you what his motives and intentions are and you will have no doubt as to what is going on. Edited December 14, 2010 by homebrew
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 "is everything ok?" one of the most annoying texts an ex could send. you should have replied : who's this? after he says it's him you should reply : oh,it's you? yes,yes everything is fine.thks for asking man that would upset the s..t out of him
Maverick1983 Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Hey,you say that part of you wants him back and part of you doesn't.If there's any doubt at all then that's your answer.If you can't give a straight answer then it probably isn't worth it.
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