oreos Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 (edited) Hi, I am a university student aged 20. I broke up with my girlfriend of 1.5 years 2 weeks ago. The start of the relation ship was pretty good. The first two months were pretty good. Now i am a guy with a big heart and would do anything for this girl. Infact i think i did a little too much and she took me for granted. When school started, we were not seeing eatch other as often as i would of liked. Everytime we had plans she was the one always cancelling and i was the one always making plans. but i mean come on, after a year and a half of dating u should be able to see eatch other whenever you want. I mean i know we are both busy with school and stuff but if u really care and love eatch other you would make time for eatchother no matter what. She treated me like a friend, not a boyfriend. We would barely have sex, and i would basically have to beg for it. I feel like i showed too much feelings in this relationship, and she broke up with me the first time. She came back to me after 5 days and begged for me back and i took her back after talking with her and telling her she has to change. She agreed to change. But after awhile she started acting the same. Actions speak louder then words. She would never show her love to me and she never seemed like she wanted me. She texted me one morning saying i dont want to go out tonight. I texted back saying ok are we stilling hanging out orr? She replied its up to you, your welcome to come over. Im sorry but thats not what you say to a boyfriend, thats what u say to a friend. Also we got in a fight which eventually led up to me breaking up with her. She was babysitting her grandparents house for a month which meant i could sleepover. After sleeping over through out the month( probably like 10 times) she said she was homesick and wanted to go home. I said ok. When she was home i told her why dont we go to your grandparents house and have a sleepover, she said she did not wwant to. A girlfriend should always want to spend a night with her boyfriend if she got a chance. We got into a heated argument and didnt talk for a few days, i told her she hurt my feelings and has been most of this relationship. I finally broke up with her. Its stuppid to think that i miss her after all shes put me through. I know i made the right decision but did i do anything wrong during the relation ship? did i give her too much? did i show too much feeling? i think i also let her get away with a lot. It feels like if I had done all these things right, i would still be in a good relationship with her, but she took me for granted. Do you guys think she will ever change? she called me and was trying to reel me back, i told her we have to be apart from eatch other and get over eatch other so we can both see the relationship out side the box and what was wrong with it. I know she wanted to still be friends so i told her we can be friends in a few months when we are both over eatch other. Is it possible to be friends with an ex? Edited December 11, 2010 by oreos
swfc_77 Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 i think you showed her too much emotion and chased her a little too much, its different for me because my ex lived with me so we saw each other everyday no matter what, we would do things together without planning. you'll get the general vibe on here that a lot of young people think its the end of the world (myself included) but there's plenty more to aim for in life. did you make the right decision? only you know that, but if you were not happy and she was pulling away then i think you know the answer. like i said i lived with my ex so i dont really know about planning to meet/see each other because my ex was always there for me as i was her. we could grab our coats and go anytime/anywhere we pleased, but if your ex was choosing to spend time alone or not showing that she wants you there then that speaks volumes. just put it down to experience, move on and go NC. she will probably try and stay in your life some how but its up to you how you deal with that. i have cut loose now, i doubt i'll ever talk to my ex ever again and it doesn't bother my now, i couldn't move on with her still hanging around in the background of my life, like she couldn't move on with me in the background of her life.
Author oreos Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 Its been 4 months now that we have been apart. We did 2 months no contact and then we texted eatchother every now and then and slept with each other twice. I have dated a few girls in between also, but was never really into them. There was never really anything wrong with my ex, we just had busy schedules and could only see eachother like once or twice a week. This is a hard decision because this girl is everything i look for in a girl, she looks great and has a good personality. But i'm only 21 and I feel young. If I get back with her its almost like I have to marry her. If I do not get back with her I will always think about what it could of been like to be with her, but on the other hand if I do get back with her I am going to wonder what it would be like if i decided to stay single. Being single has its highs and lows, also a relationship has its highs and lows. I AM NOT SURE! Feed back would be great. Thanks
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