Has anybody experience this syndrome before? The grass is greener on the other side?

[samantha_123]

Have you found it to be successful or did you end up regretting leaving you SO ?

 

My coworker had experience this before he thought the grass was greener on the other side… he left her and found out that it was untrue. I asked him why you don’t tell her how you feel ? He told me that he would not contact her for the fear of rejection and pride issues. Now he’s in a five year relationship with a woman that he’s unhappy with. ( Im guessing never feeling the same so had to settle? )He told me that he doesn’t want to get married and never will. Months later I asked him the same question and he said when he finds that right person he will. Now he has to leave with regret the rest of his life and carry it with him….

[harmfulsweetz]

I think everyone experiences this at some point. Ever noticed that when you're single, there's loads of happy couples everywhere? And when you're a couple, there's loads of happy singles? It's all about perspective really. Sometimes it's not so much the grass is greener on the other side, but more that the grass isn't all that green on the side that you're already on.

 

Also, sometimes we don't see what we have until it isn't there anymore. I used to think that it was a case of the grass is greener with my ex, when I dumped him after 3 years. I thought that may have been why, looking back, there was more to it than that. Was the grass greener? I'm not sure. Am I happier? Again, not sure. Was it a healthy situation to be in? No. That I am sure of. I made a decision, that at the time, was right for me. If in the future I look back and later regret that decision, so be it. Sometimes you just have to make a choice, and live with the consequences, good and bad.

 

Your coworker I'm sure will be fine, and won't regret for long because one day, someone will come into his life and make him see why things didn't work out with her.

[samantha_123]

I think everyone experiences this at some point. Ever noticed that when you're single, there's loads of happy couples everywhere? And when you're a couple, there's loads of happy singles? It's all about perspective really. Sometimes it's not so much the grass is greener on the other side, but more that the grass isn't all that green on the side that you're already on.

 

Also, sometimes we don't see what we have until it isn't there anymore. I used to think that it was a case of the grass is greener with my ex, when I dumped him after 3 years. I thought that may have been why, looking back, there was more to it than that. Was the grass greener? I'm not sure. Am I happier? Again, not sure. Was it a healthy situation to be in? No. That I am sure of. I made a decision, that at the time, was right for me. If in the future I look back and later regret that decision, so be it. Sometimes you just have to make a choice, and live with the consequences, good and bad.

 

Your coworker I'm sure will be fine, and won't regret for long because one day, someone will come into his life and make him see why things didn't work out with her.

 

True lol, ive never thought of that before.. When I was in my relationship single people looked happier going partying, drinking, hanging out with friends. Ive always wondered what was on the other side but never went over. Now that im single its not that glamorous… from what ive seen so far it’s a bunch of unhappy people. Guys trying to get luck every weekend, hitting on girls that they will never get. Girls looking for Mr. right at the bar…. You make a lot of good points…. I just want my ex to regret his decision thinking the grass is greener on the other side… The single life and the couples life has its pros and cons….. Why did you brake up with your ex?

[harmfulsweetz]

There was a lot of things going on-I think it was partially to do with the grass is greener syndrome, I always looked at all of those happy singles and wanted to be them. But it was definitely more than that, I never felt happy when I was with him, I always felt low, and it came down to the fact that I'd rather be alone, than be with someone I was unhappy with.

 

People place a lot of creedance into that syndrome, and I think sometimes, it pays to remember the bad times, (as well as good) and truly get to grips with why it ended. We make decisions based on how we feel at the time, sometimes this is with what we can imagine of the future, other times not so much, but I feel it's important to make choices and not regret them. There are days when, of course, I consider what it would be like with him now, but I just remind myself of the reasons I ended it and move on.

 

Single life isn't necessarily all that great, but it's good to have time alone.

[samantha_123]

There was a lot of things going on-I think it was partially to do with the grass is greener syndrome, I always looked at all of those happy singles and wanted to be them. But it was definitely more than that, I never felt happy when I was with him, I always felt low, and it came down to the fact that I'd rather be alone, than be with someone I was unhappy with.

 

People place a lot of creedance into that syndrome, and I think sometimes, it pays to remember the bad times, (as well as good) and truly get to grips with why it ended. We make decisions based on how we feel at the time, sometimes this is with what we can imagine of the future, other times not so much, but I feel it's important to make choices and not regret them. There are days when, of course, I consider what it would be like with him now, but I just remind myself of the reasons I ended it and move on.

 

Single life isn't necessarily all that great, but it's good to have time alone.

 

At times I feel better off alone then to be in a relationship with somebody who had built a wall over themselves because of what hes exs did to him in the passed. He carried that into our relationship. He never let me love him. I stayed with him for years thinking one day he would let me in but he never did. He ended up leaving me to see what’s on the other side of the fence. Now that it’s over I had a lot of time to reflect our problems with in our relationship. I hope one day ill find that one person that’s going to love me for me and make me happy. I think we all wonder what if we would have stayed with that person…. What would have been…