Mme. Chaucer Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 The comment does, however, compliment the OP's avatar pic remarkably well. At least he's consistent. Too bad he's in his late 40's rather than 14 though.
sally4sara Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 You and the lady's humor is mismatched. It happens. I don't need to insult your humor to get this point across tho: If what you find funny, upsets someone else, you two probably don't have much of a chance down the road. Humor is what carries us through the rough stuff. Don't sweat it; you'll find someone who thinks you're hysterical.
refurb Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 You and the lady's humor is mismatched. It happens. I don't need to insult your humor to get this point across tho: If what you find funny, upsets someone else, you two probably don't have much of a chance down the road. Humor is what carries us through the rough stuff. Don't sweat it; you'll find someone who thinks you're hysterical. Good point! I like it! However, it's one of those things where I think the situation added to the risk: 1. They don't know each other that well (3 dates?), so she really doesn't know what he means by the comment (is he being funny? crude?) 2. It's hard to judge a comment by text RF
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 Don't sweat it; you'll find someone who thinks you're hysterical. Probably a middle school boy ...
Author alexlakeman Posted December 13, 2010 Author Posted December 13, 2010 Lol, omg this threa is still floating around ! I don't recall if I mentioned but within that same text convo we were talking "thongs vs boy shorts", vicky's, etc. How we got in dat convo I don't remember. I guess that's one sign me & d ex gf got along. When I asked "her" after 3-4 dates she was laughing about it and gave me the answer; which I later confirmed lol.
Futuregirl Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 Yea, IMO it's an invasive and disrespectful question. Not exactly treating a lady like a lady. I would feel it's poor etiquette and comes off as low class. However, I think everyone has a different idea of what they require to feel respected. Therefore it's easy to step on ppl's toes. It can take a long time for couples to learn how to respect each other. When someone feels disrespected, it's up to them to tell others where their boundaries are. If the other person is interested, they will listen and consider it. I think you took a risk with that comment, and it was perfectly self respecting and assertive of her to signal to you that a line was crossed as far as she was concerned. Why not respect that she's communicating her preference?
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