DontWorryBHappy Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Today my boyfriend and I were talking about the subject of opposite sex friendships while in a relationship, and about what is appropriate. I told him that I feel opposite sex friendships are ok as long as they are kept very casual and as long as you aren't doing date-like things... such as the movies, going to a carnival, etc. A casual spontaneous lunch is very different from a pre-planned dinner outing (for example). And of course I said that most anything in group settings is fine. It's just the one-on-one with the opposite sex type stuff that you need to be careful of. My boyfriend on the other hand is very laid back about this kind of thing, mostly because he has always been extremely open and outgoing with people so he has more trouble understanding boundaries. He didn't see anything wrong with hanging out with a girl one-on-one at the movies, mall, mini golf, bowling, or anything really.. but he was open to hearing how I felt and wanted to do (or not do) what I feel ok with, even though it seemed like he had trouble understanding my thinking. Well, then I spoke to my brother and suddenly I got a different opinion all together. Him and his girlfriend have a rule where neither of them are to hang out with an opposite sex friend one-on-one... only in groups. My brother kept telling me that even going to the mall or eating lunch with someone of the opposite sex isnt appropriate because of how it looks. He thinks that one-on-one stuff should be reserved for the two partners in the relationship. He asked me if I could imagine our aunt or uncle mini golfing or bowling with someone else of the opposite sex, and for some reason when he put it that way it seemed kind of odd or inappropriate... I also asked my mom, who felt hanging out with opposite sex friends should only be done when the significant other is involved (as in having them come along or something). So basically I'm terribly confused..... I've gotten too many different opinions and I've thought about all of them to the point where I'm not sure how *I* feel anymore. What do you think??
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