Caliguy64 Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 She knew how much I loved her and how much I cared about her kids. Yet all I got was a short conversation over text. Basically she couldn't think about things any more. That was it. Never heard from her since. I treated her well and know I did nothing wrong. Still hurts that she could do this to me in this manner.
SimonSerenade Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Could be many different explanations for it, Women find it easier to give the cold shoulder to somebody they love rather than give them a heart felt goodbye, I was in a relationship and had a kid with someone for 3 years, Had it all and one day I got a phone call, A petty none sense argument and all of a sudden I've been single for 4 months since, She was pretty heartless towards me and never really seem bothered about us splitting up, I feel some women such as these tend to bury there feelings but one day they'll surface and they'll feel everything they put us through and when they do and want to show us its usually too late, Just the way things go sometime's I'm afraid =/
seaworld Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Could be many different explanations for it, Women find it easier to give the cold shoulder to somebody they love rather than give them a heart felt goodbye, I was in a relationship and had a kid with someone for 3 years, Had it all and one day I got a phone call, A petty none sense argument and all of a sudden I've been single for 4 months since, She was pretty heartless towards me and never really seem bothered about us splitting up, I feel some women such as these tend to bury there feelings but one day they'll surface and they'll feel everything they put us through and when they do and want to show us its usually too late, Just the way things go sometime's I'm afraid =/ I am in the same situation man. my fiance of 4 yrs just decided she didn't want to do it anymore after a conversation with a friend. I came back for thanksgiving, pretty much asking for closure, a talk face to face and she wouldn't even give it to me. She's been heartless ever since, and has showed no emotions to anybody. I just want to know that our relationship meant something to her... for 4 yrs. I really wonder if one day she'll miss me, regret it, or have any feelings about what she put me through.... Does any girls on here have stories similar to this?
carhill Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Why can women walk away with out any explanation? The simple answer is, presuming they're not broken psychologically, that they have processed the ending of the relationship sufficiently in their mind to depart it without comment. I've done some of this work and see how it goes. There are a lot of little goodbyes which are said through actions and acceptances and body language. If the other party is insufficiently sensitive or aware, they may not honestly perceive that they're being said goodbye to until the time of the actual absence. I gotta tell ya marriage taught me more about being a cold, heartless bitch than life prior ever did. I learned from a master. I just put it away and recognize it's a part of me now. We all have 'sides'. My sympathies...
Perhaps Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 It's not just girls... it's anyone who doesn't have the courage to face themselves.
skydiveaddict Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Believe me, you don't want an "explanation." It would only make you feel worse
lyeex Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 im facing that right now. the guy i was seeing basically let me go slowly, no explanation or anything. and im still deciding if i should ask him for one, because i think i deserve it. whether the truth hurts or not, i rather know than forever wondering why or never having complete closure. but that's just me. and even if i did ask him for an explanation, i doubt that i would get one.
Surfer203 Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 My wife of almost 8 years left me 7 weeks ago and I still don't have an explanation and got a "false" good bye. She left and I thought it was only a temporary seperation.. turns out she left for good and is living with another man she only met once prior. Some times women and people just don't make sense. The world sucks some times, but it always evens itself out. Don't worry, you will be on top again one day and your mate will be in the gutter before you know it.
SimonSerenade Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 I am in the same situation man. my fiance of 4 yrs just decided she didn't want to do it anymore after a conversation with a friend. I came back for thanksgiving, pretty much asking for closure, a talk face to face and she wouldn't even give it to me. She's been heartless ever since, and has showed no emotions to anybody. I just want to know that our relationship meant something to her... for 4 yrs. I really wonder if one day she'll miss me, regret it, or have any feelings about what she put me through.... Does any girls on here have stories similar to this? Your preaching to the choir mate, I also asked for a face to face end to all of this and all I got was "I'm just not ready", I too wanted to know if the 3 years we shared and everything we had meant something to her but she just wouldn't tell me, It still makes no sense to me how she could be so cruel and heartless, She said she couldn't hurt me any more by staying with me yet the pain she's put me through now is so much worse than anything she could of ever done, I think one day they'll both regret it, They can push there feelings down as far as they want but they'll only come back 10 fold for them to deal with, I did it myself once with this girl who was head over heels for me, I pretended I didn't care when I left her then around 5-6 months later after all the pushing and false happiness of living without her I just cracked and could not for the life of me prevent the tears and when I asked for her back and apologised for everything, When I spilled my heart out to her, she told me to rightly "get lost" and never speak to her again, I was young and stupid back then but I've always been emotionally more mature for my age so I can only assume our ex's are at that messed up stage unfortunately...
BorderRogue Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 She knew how much I loved her and how much I cared about her kids. Yet all I got was a short conversation over text. Basically she couldn't think about things any more. That was it. Never heard from her since. I treated her well and know I did nothing wrong. Still hurts that she could do this to me in this manner. Oh yeah. Hurts like hell. I beat myself over this, the dreaded "whys??". Don't know the answer but it was hell getting over not knowing. I suppose its my nature to "fix" things and my emo/brain complex kept churning in place trying to find the problem. It took reading sites like this one to get an idea what was going on. I'm okay now .. I think. She probably doesn't know either just that GIGS works for her and she is apparently happy with the other guy. I applied no contact forever, don't even entertain the idea of a reconcilitation or at least one that has a happy ending. I figure if she's so painful to me then it isn't worth it. My next one will be all that I want and I'll be on top. Until then I keep busy. All you can really do and of course, run 29 miles a day.
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