BobNoName426 Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 I've never had a girlfriend before and I'm a tad shy, but I'm trying to overcome this and meet a girl! I finally got the guts to ask my crush out... she sounded very excited, but about before the date she had to cancel for some family reasons... *legit* Yesterday, I went up to her in the library and had a small conversation with her. Here are some things I noticed of her: 1. She smiled 2. Her teeth were showing 3. Her responses would change from quick to very long 4. She thanked me for a candy gram I sent her through my school. 5. She kept eye contact 6. Her eyes seemed to light up when I tapped her on the shoulder and she turned around at me. 7. She would have this drunken sounding laugh/giggle, even if something wasn't funny. 8. I paused cause I got nervous/shy for about 5 seconds, I could feel my face blushing and she smiled and looked into my eyes. Another time I talked to her before this, she would tilt her head. Is this flirting or just being friendly?
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Here are some things I noticed of her: 1. She smiled - I would definitely not take this as a sign of flirting. Everybody smiles... I smile when I greet anyone unless I am annoyed at them. 2. Her teeth were showing - same as above. 3. Her responses would change from quick to very long - ???? 4. She thanked me for a candy gram I sent her through my school. - lol, this is common courtesy. 5. She kept eye contact - this is what people are supposed to do when they are talking to eachother. 6. Her eyes seemed to light up when I tapped her on the shoulder and she turned around at me. - what do you mean light up? As for turning around, that is what people do when they are tapped on the shoulder. They turn around and look at the person tapping them on the shoulder. 7. She would have this drunken sounding laugh/giggle, even if something wasn't funny. Maybe you don't think it's funny but she does. 8. I paused cause I got nervous/shy for about 5 seconds, I could feel my face blushing and she smiled and looked into my eyes. So basically she was looking at you.. probably because you guys were mid conversation, no need to romanticize it. Another time I talked to her before this, she would tilt her head. People tilt their heads all the time... Absolutely nothing you wrote indicates she was flirting with you. Maybe she was but I wouldn't conclude anything from what you wrote. I maintain eye contact, smile, thank people when they do something nice and laugh when I think something is funny... I also turn around if somebody is trying to get my attention or taps me on the shoulder and look at the person I am talking to. This is normal behaviour. I hope every guy I meet doesn't think I'm flirting with him.
Author BobNoName426 Posted December 11, 2010 Author Posted December 11, 2010 Well does it sound like she's not interested?
Eddie Edirol Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Heres how you know shes not interested. She cancels on you (no reason is legit) and doesnt reschedule. Women will say the absolute worst reason so you cant call her out on it. You will hear this one soon : "My friend just went to the hospital" oh really, right at the time we were suppose to meet? Anyway, you will eventually learn to read a guirl before asking her out so you know she will be looking forward to the date. If she really wanted to go out with you, she would have said something to the effect of "maybe tomorrow?". if she really wanted to see you, she would have made an effort to see you. You messed up by sending her a candygram. Youre going to learn the hard way that you dont win women over with gifts or favors. If they know youre ready to do anything for them without them earning it first, youve shot yourself in the foot. Move onto another girl, and next time, win her over with your personality. Walk up to her, make her laugh, DONT BLUSH!!!! The way to start seeing interest from a woman is if she asks questions about you. You need to start looking up ebooks on how to talk to women so you understand all the things you do wrong. Start now while your young and can practice in school.
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Well does it sound like she's not interested? No.. it doesn't sound like anything.
Author BobNoName426 Posted December 11, 2010 Author Posted December 11, 2010 What be some obvious signs she's flirting and not just being friendly/nice?
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 What be some obvious signs she's flirting and not just being friendly/nice? Just ask her out.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 What be some obvious signs she's flirting and not just being friendly/nice? She'll ask you questions about you when shes curious. Doesnt mean shes interested, just curious. If you come off uninteresting, she will bail. Keep in mind all that eye contact and giggling could just be her practicing her sexuality on you, to see if you will fall for it. They do that at your age. it makes her feel more confident while the wool is pulled over your eyes.
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Keep in mind all that eye contact and giggling could just be her practicing her sexuality on you, to see if you will fall for it. They do that at your age. Well that's news to me. I have never thought to myself, 'I am going to practice my sexuality on this guy.' Nor have any of my friends. Keeping eye contact is polite and it shows confidence. As for giggling. I don't see what the difference is between giggling and laughing but giggling is usually used to describe young girls laughing. Yeah, people do that, when things are funny. Both of these things are not flirting or practicing sexuality lol.
Chi townD Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 Just ask her out again. If she says, " Nows not a good time", you your answer. If she gives you another excuse or baulks on the subject, you got your answer.
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