clemsonbelle425 Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Does looking at porn, a moderate amount, make you lose some of your sex drive? My boyfriend looks at it the nights we are not together moderately. I don't feel like his desire for sex is as much as it used to be. He loves me very much. We have been together 1.5 years. I'm beginning to think it's the porn. The porn is something I have accepted.
Bogo123 Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 He won't be as excited to have sex with you because of the porn. What you need to worry about is if it gets out of hand and he slowly becomes desensitized to it. This can lead to ED and him needing crazier and crazier porn to satisfy him.
mr.dream merchant Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 You know, I had a feeling about this. There were times where in the same day, I'd get off to porn, and later that night, see my GF..and I just wasn't in the mood to have sex with her. There's also been times where, when having sex with a woman, and I'm using a condom..I can't stay hard. I can't feel anything through the condom...I just feels like straight up plastic on my junk...Do they make Thin Magnums?
musemaj11 Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Men can suffer from what is called DEATH GRIP due to masturbation. Your vagina is never gonna be able to compete with his clenched fist. LOL I was a chronic masturbator as a teenager and it took me awhile to get used to the feel of a vagina when I started having sex.
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Does looking at porn, a moderate amount, make you lose some of your sex drive? My boyfriend looks at it the nights we are not together moderately. I don't feel like his desire for sex is as much as it used to be. He loves me very much. We have been together 1.5 years. I'm beginning to think it's the porn. The porn is something I have accepted. Sometimes it kills it... sometimes it makes him want more. If I have about 8 hours between porn and sex, I can delay orgasm for an extra 20 minutes or more. However, excessive use can also annihilate my sex drive. Other things that cause sex drive issues. Excessive stress at work, Being out of shape/lack of exercise, and an overly bitchy girlfriend.
Yer_Blues Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Does looking at porn, a moderate amount, make you lose some of your sex drive? My boyfriend looks at it the nights we are not together moderately. I don't feel like his desire for sex is as much as it used to be. He loves me very much. We have been together 1.5 years. I'm beginning to think it's the porn. The porn is something I have accepted. Hell no, it's just a measure of how horny you are. I do it because it's unbearable not to, so I mean I guess it helps a bit. If you're dude is looking at a bunch of porn and isn't "in the mood" or whatever than that's probably a bad sign. lol @ deathgrip btw. All good things have a tolerance/diminishing returns factor unfortunately
Author clemsonbelle425 Posted December 11, 2010 Author Posted December 11, 2010 Thank you all for your responses! Everything else is awesome in our relationship so I am not worried about this. Honestly, he has had a cold this past week so I think him feeling crappy has had a lot to do with his lack of sex drive. The more I think about it, the more I think that's it. We see each other about every 2nd or 3rd night. I know most ever night we are not together,he looks at porn. He is honest about it. At first it took getting used to cause I think all females want to be the only one their man wants. But now I realize that this is just a tool for masturbation. I have sent him sexy pics of my own which he enjoys! Definitely my whole perception of porn has changed. Porn is a natural way for guys to release, well you know. Tomorrow night we are hanging out again. Today I casually mentioned "It's been over a week since we had sex." I think he got the hint that I'm ready for some! ; )
Author clemsonbelle425 Posted December 11, 2010 Author Posted December 11, 2010 And also this has inspired me to spice up our relationship. Bought a few sexy numbers & fun things to use in the bedroom. Oh, and I agree that a condom does interfere with the feeling of sex. But I think safe is better unless you are with someone monogamously who you know is tested & clean.
ComeUndone Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 I'm in your boat, and yes, it CAN mess up his sex drive... it does for my bf. When he jacks off even the night before we have sex, sometimes it's hard for him to reach orgasm with me.... it sucks. If it weren't for that I'd be accepting of porn but I do sometimes get annoyed with his choice to jack off before our nights together.
Floridaman Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Thank you all for your responses! Everything else is awesome in our relationship so I am not worried about this. Honestly, he has had a cold this past week so I think him feeling crappy has had a lot to do with his lack of sex drive. The more I think about it, the more I think that's it. We see each other about every 2nd or 3rd night. I know most ever night we are not together,he looks at porn. He is honest about it. At first it took getting used to cause I think all females want to be the only one their man wants. But now I realize that this is just a tool for masturbation. I have sent him sexy pics of my own which he enjoys! Definitely my whole perception of porn has changed. Porn is a natural way for guys to release, well you know. Tomorrow night we are hanging out again. Today I casually mentioned "It's been over a week since we had sex." I think he got the hint that I'm ready for some! ; ) No, it's not natural, Clem. MB is. His focus should be on you. You're much better than an image in a mag. or on a computer screen. Something's wrong with this guy. This is like a guy's drinking getting out of hand and interfering with his life. You need to take a stand here and decide if this is what you want to spend your life dealing with. Please read other women's posts on how their partner's reliance on porn has devastated their marriages.
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