iamawesome Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Well, I've posted here before. Long story short, dated my ex for three years. She wanted to settle down get married (she is 20) and I felt like I was too young (22). I ended up breaking things off over a disagreement with a mutual friend and other doubts I had towards her. Within three weeks of breaking up she got engaged to her ex. They have been dating for 2 months now. The ex is leaving for the Military. Their wedding is set for when he comes back in two months, although he leaves after that for a almost a year. My ex is very pretty, dedicated and loving. I feel like I made a huge mistake with this break-up especially since she is going to be married. I feel like I will never find another girl as pretty as her and I tried my luck with dating with disastrous results. I'm not really sure I want her back after this; however, she has been making my life a living hell. With her finance gone, she has started contacting and hanging out with my mutual friends (or trying to). On Facebook, she comments after my posts on mutual friends. She even changed her profile pic to her and her fiance after doing so... I don't want to block her because I don't want to show my anger, or any feelings toward her. This whole ordeal has been extremely hurtful for me, though. It's not that I want her back, it's that I miss having someone special in my life. The fact that she is getting married just adds insult to injury. Any ideas on how to cope in a situation like this?
ShatteredReality Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 First of all...why not block her? When you do that she cannot see anything you post and you cannot see anything she posts...it's basically as though you don't exist to eachother. I think it's a great tool - you should go ahead and give it a shot. Second - I'm sorry. It sucks to be lonely and it sucks to watch your ex go out there and get married. Kinda sounds like she just wanted to Get Married though...and so she grabbed the first guy after you who would marry her. If that is the case, she's going to be very lonely...never marry the rebound guy so quickly.... You need to stop thinking you made a mistake...love takes time. It hits when you're not looking for it, usually....You need to be happy being with you - comfortable with yourself...someone else will key into that eventually and you'll have an awesome relationship as a result! (Ok but don't become a conceited jerk or anything...cause that would suck too)
Leandro Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 (edited) First of all...why not block her? When you do that she cannot see anything you post and you cannot see anything she posts...it's basically as though you don't exist to eachother. I think it's a great tool - you should go ahead and give it a shot. Agree Second - I'm sorry. It sucks to be lonely and it sucks to watch your ex go out there and get married. Kinda sounds like she just wanted to Get Married though...and so she grabbed the first guy after you who would marry her. If that is the case, she's going to be very lonely...never marry the rebound guy so quickly.... Agree Plus, having a military marriage isn't going to be easy. She might try to contact you when she's lonely and you're going to have to be strong. I don't think there is nothing wrong with you. I don't think you should be settling down either right now, I'm 20. I think your ex and my ex have the same mind. My ex told me I should be settled down by now, LOL. I laughed at that. Edited December 11, 2010 by Leandro
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