wawa Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Hello fellow loveshackers, My backstory is in a previous post but long story short is that my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me and I initiated NC. It was a month later when she contacted me and we started a tango of calls. Three months of this on and off contact pursued until I could not take it anymore and told her lets stop talking completely. That is when she told me that I should know she has been dating. She started dating a guy a week after she broke up with me. I could not believe it because she didnt tell me for a full 4 months and our conversations during that time seem fake and she seemed fake. Still, blinded by my one sided love I could not bring myself to believe it was all a lie. So after she told me she was dating, we agreed not to talk to each other anymore. About 2 weeks go by and she starts calling me. I ignored it the first couple times before I crumbled (pathetic). She said she misses me yada yada ya. It feels good but could not believe it. After receiving that phone call she came to visit me the following weekend (she goes to school 6 hours away from me). We had a great time just like back when we were dating but we did not hook up or anything. She went back to school and I thought that I had cleared my head of her as I told her that this is the last time we talk/see/meet each other. Dumb me, went to her school the following weekend and this time we hooked up but she started crying and said that she loves her current boyfriend and she cant leave him. I felt bad so we stopped what we were doing and I went back to my school. This time i thought since we ended on that note, I thought we would stop talking. But she started calling me again and this time to complain about how miserable she is with her boyfriend. Question (To guys and especially girls) 1) What is the point of telling me this? 2) Why do girls stay with a guy that makes them cry? Wouldn't you want to be with someone that makes you happy? Her boyfriend is in a far away place and is coming back for the new year. Knowing once this guy comes back, I probably will never see her again (forreal this time since she is going to his place to meet the parents) I went to her school to see her (because she begged me to). This time she is more reserved and does not try to initiate anything with me and just called me up for comfort i guess. I guess if there ever was a second chance in all this I guess I missed it because there is no more time for me in her life once the boyfriend comes back and I know its pretty much a deal sealer once she meets his parents. What I want to ask is should I have done something differently or is there some action I can take right now to grab my second chance? Right now, it just seems like its over and I just need to leave this all behind me. It is probably best to walk away from this and move on. But please I would like your opinions. Thank you
Eternity001 Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Hi there, I'd walk away unless you enjoy continuous emotional pain. It'll get worse not better. I don't think you did anything wrong if your story is accurate. I wouldn't be with someone knowing they have feelings for someone else. She shouldn't be coming to you regarding her issues with this other guy, it's just flat out cruel. That can all stop though if you build the strength to just not have anything to do with her though which I think is the best thing you can do.
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