Connecting on Facebook..

[NoWorryBrah]

Hey, so I met someone on there I loosely knew from high school. It's been a long time and we have a bunch of common friends, we never really got a chance to talk but now I have her as a friend and sent a few messages, to which she replied enthusiastically..

 

I feel like, I need to take it slow.. I don't know why. My pacing is just getting into a more cautious stage.. Not like the old days I'd ask them out.. I guess since I feel most people who go on there are somewhat anxious because the nature of seeing friends you haven't seen in 15+ years.. you know??

 

I guess my question is, if this were you (the girl) and the guy you remember from high school starts talking to you (and you respond quite nicely) are you expecting a private message asking to call.. go out.. ???

 

I feel like an idiot here My instincts are hazy, help me out haha.. thanks a lot!

[Cee]

That happened to me. The guy and I messaged for several weeks and then he revealed he was into me. I said I was interested too. And we had a couple of dates.

 

I don't see the harm in asking if she'd like to get together for coffee. If you hit it off, then you can ask her on a proper date.

[NoWorryBrah]

Yeah I'm just being stupid again.

 

I used to meet people online and ask them out immediately, cause I too hated that whole anticipation anxiety, or chatting too long and being let down. You just wanna get it over with.

 

 

But, I was like 23-26 back then. It was easy to find some stranger, just say 'nice pic.. what's your number?' and they just send it.. that way we talk and you get immediate sense whether to continue or end it there...

 

 

 

But now I'm older.. I'm being more slow. I think I should stick to instinct and just give her my # or get hers and call.

 

 

I guess that's my real question, with age, should you take it slower?

 

 

I used to be kinda 'fast' in that way, and none worked out longer than a year.

 

I shouldn't think this way huh? I know.. ok, "stop, me"