clemsonbelle425 Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Hi guys! I am so thankful I have you online friends to be a listening ear. Well, my boyfriend of 1.5 years is a free-spirit. He is a base-jumper & hiked the Appalachian Trail in the past. He enjoys having nights to himself. We see each other about 3 nights a week. On his nights to himself I know he looks at porn which I am able to accept now. I know the porn is just a way to masturbate. Sometimes he plans dates in advance, but sometimes he is go-with-the-flow and will not specify when he wants to see him next. How do I ask him when he wants to see me next in a nonchalant way? I want to respect his time to himself, but I also want to plan my life. It is so hard sometimes on our nights apart cause I miss him so deeply! Last night when we were together he said that the night before when we were alone he was missing cuddling with me. I told him he could call me to cuddle anytime! Your advice would be appreciated. Hugs!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 13, 2010 Posted December 13, 2010 I suggest that you just practice feeling more and more comfortable with the vulnerability that comes with honestly letting him know that you would like to see him. I know that it feels so 'raw' to have your feelings and wishes 'out there', perhaps to be stepped-on, but that is the way to let him know that YOU want to see him. And, at the very worst, it is also the way to find out whether your time and emotions are better invested elsewhere. When you're older and looking back at today, you will do so from a point in life at which it is so much easier to express yourself honestly, without so much FEAR about what anyone might think of your feelings.
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