Gold Pile Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Recently I saw a small group of hefty people exiting a small gym. Some wise guy yelled out that donuts were on sale across the street. The remark drew a few laughs from nearby shoppers. Not to be out-done, I yelled "stampede!". A young lady and and young man is the hefty group looked particularly hurt, not angry, just hurt. This event coupled with certain responses to my thread in the health section has made me decide to lighten up on the overweight. Yes, a percentage of such people have terrible, offensive habits. But I can't help but feel bad for some of the others. I like it when people laugh (even at my expense), I like it when people get angry, but I really don't enjoy hurting people. I'm not backtracking from my stand that most of them are capable of not being overweight, and I still maintain the the Politically correct are full of crap when they pretend it's OK. But I'll try to refrain from insulting them.
laRubiaBonita Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 do you ever think it maybe too late to redeem yourself? personal impressions carry a lot of weight (pun intended) and are not easily changed; if at all.
Template Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 How little self-esteem do you have to resorting viewing them in such a negative light? It's really shallow of you to judge them solely on looks, and then act upon it in such a way. The fact that they are in the gym even trying should be commended and applauded. Yes, most of them are physiologically capable of not being overweight, but how does it motivate them to go to the gym, if they are going to be an object of ridicule. Some don't pretend it's OK, there are people that are okay with it. These people are comfortable in their own skin, which most of us big or small, fit, or unfit are will to honestly admit, again they should be commended. Instead of trying not to insult them. How about just DON'T insult them. Don't get me wrong, as with anything if some attacks you, verbally, or physically, you do have the right to defend yourself. But come on dude, big or small, people shouldn't be harassed for trying to improve themselves.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Yes, a percentage of ALL people have terrible, offensive habits. they pretend it's OK. I fixed it for you.
Author Gold Pile Posted December 10, 2010 Author Posted December 10, 2010 How little self-esteem do you have to resorting viewing them in such a negative light? It's really shallow of you to judge them solely on looks, and then act upon it in such a way. The fact that they are in the gym even trying should be commended and applauded. Yes, most of them are physiologically capable of not being overweight, but how does it motivate them to go to the gym, if they are going to be an object of ridicule. Some don't pretend it's OK, there are people that are okay with it. These people are comfortable in their own skin, which most of us big or small, fit, or unfit are will to honestly admit, again they should be commended. Instead of trying not to insult them. How about just DON'T insult them. Don't get me wrong, as with anything if some attacks you, verbally, or physically, you do have the right to defend yourself. But come on dude, big or small, people shouldn't be harassed for trying to improve themselves. That was pretty much my point
Author Gold Pile Posted December 10, 2010 Author Posted December 10, 2010 do you ever think it maybe too late to redeem yourself? personal impressions carry a lot of weight (pun intended) and are not easily changed; if at all. A voice from the past, good to hear from you:love: No I don't think it's too late for people to get in shape and redeem themselves.
Template Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 That was pretty much my point Really? I saw this But I'll try to refrain from insulting them. If there is not resolve to go through with it all the way, then why even start. You'll just push your ideals of overweight people in your way, because that's who you are, and that's your personality. Besides, even in a thread in which you say you are going to "try to" refrain, you've already failed with this statement in that same thread. I'm not backtracking from my stand that most of them are capable of not being overweight, and I still maintain the the Politically correct are full of crap when they pretend it's OK.
Author Gold Pile Posted December 10, 2010 Author Posted December 10, 2010 Template:Besides, even in a thread in which you say you are going to "try to" refrain, you've already failed with this statement in that same thread. Originally Posted by Gold Pile I'm not backtracking from my stand that most of them are capable of not being overweight, and I still maintain the the Politically correct are full of crap when they pretend it's OK. That's not an insult. An insult is when someone yells wide load or writes that so & so is a slob. Saying their condition is improvable isn't an insult. You are way too hung up on this subject, your replies are all rage and less logic. There are a couple of very thoughtful posters that had weight issues. Seek them out, I think it'll help. I'd help too, but I don't think you'd be open to it. May I inquire about your health?
harmfulsweetz Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 It says far more about you what you said to them than them being overweight. What someone else's weight offends you to the point of you having to ridicule them? And you have to be confronted with their hurt to actually see the wrong in doing it? That's no different to someone who has just been caught cheating, and only feeling guilty and remorseful after they see the pain they caused. If you feel the need to join in on such immature comments/yells, to me, that screams insecurity and low self-esteem.
johan Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 I assume the ones who didn't look hurt also did not stampede?
Template Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 Template: Originally Posted by Gold Pile That's not an insult. An insult is when someone yells wide load or writes that so & so is a slob. Saying their condition is improvable isn't an insult. You are way too hung up on this subject, your replies are all rage and less logic. There are a couple of very thoughtful posters that had weight issues. Seek them out, I think it'll help. I'd help too, but I don't think you'd be open to it. May I inquire about your health? Look who's calling the kettle black. I've read your posts - do you find a reflection of your style in my post? Then I guess you are total expert to judge on my style. What do YOU want to know about my health? YOU want to judge me now. What do you want to hear? That I DON'T have diabetes, that I DON'T have high blood Pressure, that I CAN run a marathon. Or how about that I CAN bench 215 about 30 times. I eat 6 times a day. These the things you want to hear? Or do you want to hear that I had a fat childhood, and that kids can be waaaay more mean than you have been. OR maybe you want to hear how I've stayed up at nights with some of my more obese friends complaining how bad their lives suck, and it doesn't help that jerks don't know them, judge them strictly on their looks, or look down on them, and feel the need to make them feel bad, to the point where they feel they want to kill themselves. OR, how about hearing how I usually make friends with these types of people at the gym, and helping to motivate them YOU are totally missing the point. You think by patting yourself on the back by "trying" to refrain from doing these kinds of things, you are making the world the better place? It's clearly your attitude that needs adjustment, and as they say, "If you aren't part of the solution, you are part of the problem." For certain, you aren't part of the solution.
johan Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 OR, how about hearing how I usually make friends with these types of people at the gym, and helping to motivate them "Hi, I'm here to be your friend mostly because I noticed you're fat, although your personality seems halfway decent, too. I suspect you're going to need my help staying motivated, because you all do. I will help save you from your current self. Together we can make you into someone I approve of."
Trimmer Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 ...how about hearing how I usually make friends with these types of people at the gym... ...as they say, "If you aren't part of the solution, you are part of the problem." For certain, you aren't part of the solution. Whoa! So by my ignoring "these types of people" and letting them go about their lives unaffected by me - just like I do with 99.99% of the rest of the population - I'm now a part of the problem, since I'm not a part of the solution? Be careful what lame bumper stickers you indiscriminately apply to your life there, and to mine as well. And incidentally, I don't think of them as "these types of people" - doesn't that smack of some kind of superiority? - I just think of them as people.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 GP, you might want to read between the lines of the posts on this thread. If you think you are pushing yourself up by putting others down, you're exposing a weakling and not fooling anyone but yourself. Don't keep patting yourself on the back because you're not fat. With one stroke of nature you could just as easily be a hopeless tub of flab desperate for any solution including a stomach by-pass. Why not just thank your lucky stars that nature gave you a pass from the scourge of compulsive eating instead of waging this little smart-ass war against people you have no clue about? You are owned, buddy.
Author Gold Pile Posted December 18, 2010 Author Posted December 18, 2010 The entire point of my post was that I'm easing up on fat people. A couple of posters seem to think I'm still on some sort of war path against them. This "war" of yours is only being waged by you, I haven't fired a shot since I posted this. If a given health condition makes a person so angry that they can't read straight, they need a shrink's help.
TheLoveAdvisor Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I am glad you decided to ease up....
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