amythan Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Hi - I do not know what to do. He came back to my life after a disappearing act. I realize something changed because now I am always scared he will do it again, so maybe this has something to do with my current feelings. He had the idea of going for a short trip end December and he keeps telling me that he wants to see me and he will send me the dates shortly – just he is snowed with work and blah blah. Reality is he didn’t yet. Sometimes I think he is stringing me along. Sometimes I want to trust him. After all it was his idea and he had plenty of opportunities to send the polite email: Listen, I changed my mind. And even more I do not understand what he would want to achieve with all this. But again, I need to make my own plans and he is not coming back with solid dates. So I was planning to send something along the lines but I am scared that if he is sincere when he says he is sick, haven’t signed off the holidays at work and so on .. he will be upset and he will think I am crazy and overreacting. On the other hand I do not want to wait around. Do you think it is a good idea ? The email I plan to send: "If you do not know yet but you REALLY want to see me then I will wait. If you are just buying time to finally come back with some nonsense just tell me. You never reply when you say you will do and it is getting really annoying and inconsiderate." Just to be clear I just asked him once about this and he told me on Wednesday I let you know tomorrow .. I haven’t hear from him yet !!! Am I being unreasonable ??? Thanks for your opinions.
Author amythan Posted December 10, 2010 Author Posted December 10, 2010 Just to make it clear, he is not a random guy. He used to work with me, we were friends for years and dated for five months, but never ended it really.
green_tea Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 If he said he will let you know tomorrow, and didn't, then I would not email him again if I was you. Make your own plans, and if and when he does get back to you, tell him that since you didn't hear back you assumed it was off. You are not being unreasonable to expect an answer, but if he doesn't answer, then that is your answer.
Author amythan Posted December 10, 2010 Author Posted December 10, 2010 I do not how to handle this. I am not sure about his intentions but I do not want to fool myself either. Anyone?
mortensorchid Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 No, don't email him again. The past is the past, but he emailed you and asked you to do something and didn't follow up.
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