BeyondHorizon Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 (edited) Hi all, Would appreciate your input as to where I stand in this situation. Lately I have been dating an ex-coworker who left my firm several months ago, and about a month and a half ago she texted me out of the blue and I replied asking her out for drinks. Since then we have been seeing each other pretty much every week, one on one, for drinks, a movie, dinner, coffee at my place (late night) etc. The only time it wasn't just me and her was when I had her over for a party. Quick facts: - we are both recently single (about six months) - we got on very well at work, I always found her attractive but we were both in relationships at the time. These past few months are the only times spending one on one time with her at night - I am bad at flirting, but have no trouble with confidence and humor. I can make her laugh easily, having her in hysterics just tonight. I struggle to find the right moments to escalate physicality, since I'm worried it will come off as forced or cheesy - Whenever I do touch her, she doesn't seem to mind - I accidentally (yes) touched her ass earlier and she didn't flinch - She talks about her ex-boyfriend from time to time, which I always play down and change the subject. I have noticed her comparing me to him though, which is interesting - She never calls me first, which I'm fine with - since whenever I ask her out it's a keen "yes". She bailed on one outing, but rescheduled for the following week without me asking. I find "the chase" kind of cool - She is a very reserved kind of girl, that is, not liking being touched and hit on by strangers etc She clearly has no problem being alone with me, and we get on incredibly well - I get a good feeling that she respects me significantly too, thinks I'm cool etc. My main worry is that I'm being too slow to make a move and find out where I stand here, as it's driving me nuts. Trouble is, I'm too much of a whimp to go for the kiss - or moreso that I can't find the right moment. I have tried what I can do escalate physical contact - such as brushing against her and getting close to her, all of which she doesn't seem to mind at all (no flinching or moving away etc) The friend zone theory also plays into it, as we have known each other for quite some time, but like I said never doing this sort of thing. When she left my company I figured I wouldn't see her again (being in a relationship at the time this didn't really bother me - we were out of touch for a few months after she left). It must be obvious to her that I'm keen on her now though. So is my window of opportunity closing, or should I keep going as is till the right moment comes up? If she was a stranger I started dating, I would have made my move already - but being prior friends with her makes things difficult. Is there a time limit on these things, so to say? Would appreciate any thoughts Oh, we are both in our early - mid 20s. Edited December 10, 2010 by BeyondHorizon
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