three Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 I broke up with a girl(co-worker) 4 months ago(with intermittent contact). We were together 7 months. It was a VERY unhealthy relationship. I've reached a point where I realize it's best to have nothing to do with her. I suspect she has BPD. The problem is, I can't get her out of my head. It's affecting my mood, and my bloody sanity. I've been trying to move on, but she's like a bad aftertaste that won't go away. I'm angry at myself because she's a complete psycho and somehow, I still like her. My friends and family have to keep reminding me how crazy she is because I keep rationalizing her insanity. <= I'm laughing. I'm crying. I'm going insane. I JUST WANT TO GET THIS SHE-DEMON OUT OF MY LIFE!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
alwayshoping Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 I have got to say: awesome thread title! The best thing to do is listen to your friends and family, they will see the scene from an un-tinted point of view. You probably know they are right (as you've said). Best thing is to go NC and just wait for the healing to begin. Its an emotional rollacoaster but the end justifies the means. Good luck x
kaygato Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 I really hope my ex boyfriend doesn't feel this way about me... Because I acted sort of bitchy and over-dramatic before the break up...and then super pathetic and desperate afterward, just emphasizing all the reasons he broke up with me probably. But I don't have BPD...just generalized anxiety disorder that wasn't being treated by medication at the time.
Author three Posted December 10, 2010 Author Posted December 10, 2010 Thanks for the advice. I guess I just have to stick with NC and wait it out. @kaygato> I feel that in MOST situations, negative feelings will eventually fade away, so he might have felt this way about you at some point. The one thing that screwed me up the most was my ex lying to me about everything and constantly telling me she NEEDED me, yet cheated on me. So for your own sanity, and your ex's sanity, don't give mixed signals. Be clear about how you feel.
sweet_peach115 Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 If you don't mind me asking, what does she do that makes her a complete psycho??
paleblue Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 I don't remember purchasing a ticket to Hell Bahahahahhaa!!! :lmao:
Author three Posted December 13, 2010 Author Posted December 13, 2010 Hmm. Here's why shes psycho. Everyone I know thinks she is too. > cheated on me with her ex..AND a coworker.(Apparently the ex thought they were together) > broke up with ME, then cut herself so I wouldn't leave > lies about EVERYTHING, to the point where she believes her own lies > accused me of stalking her > once her ex found out, she lied to him, telling him I was crazy > physical/verbal abuse If that's not crazy I don't know what is lol. So ye...I'm a bloody idiot to still have some feelings for her.
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