longlegzs80 Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 I don't know whether it is lack of confidence in myself that I can't speak my mind or if it is because I am shy but I find myself not opinionated about anything. Sometimes I think that I don't think about anything at all and I am just the days by without thinking. Kinda odd I know. But I find myself that when people talk to me, I don't say much or give my opinion toward anything or can really express myself. Anyone else deal with this problem?
Curt Posted March 13, 2004 Moderators Posted March 13, 2004 Know what longlegz? Sometimes, I wish I could have exactly the same damn philosophy. See, the flip side to your feeling is my own. I find some of my days just fraught with attempts to curb (at least what I perceive to be) a pile of BULL that people keep shoveling my way. I'm all for live and let live, and let all have their opinions and perspectives, but MAN O MAN... SOMETIMES ya just get the feeling that the BS will never stop piling up! SOMETIMES, people wouldn't know sh^%$%t from shampoo, even if they washed their hair in it! Takes all I can do sometimes to just turn a blind eye, live in the moment, and just go "comfortably numb." Gotta be a happy medium SOMEWHERE in between. Sorry folks....just have had a particularly frustrating day, and needed to vent! Curt
Author longlegzs80 Posted March 13, 2004 Author Posted March 13, 2004 I see where your comming from. But what do you do when you are not much of conversationalist and you don't have much of an opinion about anything?
Curt Posted March 13, 2004 Moderators Posted March 13, 2004 Gotta admit... I have no idea. I admit ignorance on this one. Perhaps join a public speakers club? toastmasters or something? I dunno...folks, anyone have any ideas? Curt
jenny Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 saaaaaaaaaay...how about a curt/longlegz match up? none of us think much of longlegz' current beau, he's a ridiculous loserass, and we all think curt is hot, interesting, stable, and talented. hmmmmm...
A Thought Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 Longlegz, I think that you named three different questions: 1. Am I not confident? 2. Am I too shy? 3. Do I have any opinions? I cannot answer one and two for you, and they may affect how you express your opinions but they do not necessarily imply that you do not have opinions. My husband is very quiet BUT you start talking cows and reproductive systems and he's all over it like fruit flies on fruit! Are there a few things that you are extremely passionate about? You probably have opinions about them...what are they? what are your opinions? You are not alone though, I used to have the same fears! Now sometimes I wish they'd come back, because I am finding myself more like Curt recently. There are also elements that can affect your ability to think about a zillion topics at once: interests hobbies time!!! energy!!! being in school/out of school---sometimes you focus so much on studying there isn't always room for much else. Just to name a few. Basically, I think we go through a time where we question our ability to have opinions thinking that everyone else is so much more thoughtful than we might be. I would encourage you to stop thinking that way and just pay attention to what interests you or arouses passion in you...expand your horizons a little as well. Read through papers/magazines and think about what is being said OR not being said. Why is what is not being said so important to what is being said? What images are portrayed? Anyway, have fun as you explore this...it's a great journey to take. ~AT P.S. I just read your post to TKay regarding "kissing unattractive girl" and well, that was an opinion! You go girl!
faux Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 Silence is a virtue. Just be sure to actually contribute when you have something to say that you feel is important. I am certain that you have opinions. I have seen you voice them on this forum. Do not be afraid to speak your mind when you believe you have something worthwhile to share with others though. I find I express my opinions better in writing than in speaking face to face with people. I often feel that my opinions will not matter in conversation. I, too, am working on this issue when associating with others. I prefer my reticence, but I often will hold back something out of doubt. It doesn't seem to matter how badly I want to say it.
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