cuppycake Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 I started dating this guy in February. He was involved in an unhealthy relationship in high school that lasted for three years and broke things off with her after she cheated on him two years ago. She is crazy and whenever she realizes that he's moving on, she tries and gets back with him. When she realized that he was moving on to me, she decided she wanted to come in again. In these past 9 months, she's harrassed me, stalked me but somehow he found a way to get back to her. He was seeing her behind my back this whole time. The thing is--she knew about me the whole time but I didn't know anything about her. He would tell me she's crazy and I would believe him because literally everyone that knows her says she's crazy.. that's her reputation on campus. I ended things last week when mutual friends of ours got us to talk to on the phone and realize what he's done to me and her. He was my first a lot of things. He always told me I was so good to him and I didn't deserve anything whenever I would question him about her. I just want to know why he would do this if he knows that I was so good to him? Especially if all him and his ex does is fight.. why would you ruin something so good? I really want to forgive him and solve and unresolved issues. I will never go back to him but do you think it's too soon to try and reach out? I just feel bad, I know he's done so much to me but I cared for this guy at one point. I don't want to feel resentful/bitter forever towards him. I'm really trying to be the bigger person and try and make everything better... even though he treated me bad, I just don't have it in me to be a bitch to him. How do I approach this situation?
paleblue Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 it sounds like to me you should just forget about it and move on. not saying you should be bitter or resentful, but just indifferent towards him, and find someone who will be respectful of you. i think him saying he knows you were soo good to him, is just him trying to relieve his guilty feelings for sleeping with another girl the whole time he was with you. he could have been having sex with her and then had sex with you in the same night! i dont think he is worth anymore of your time. sorry.
Lemontang Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Ouch that's really poor form. These kinds of people you can't fix, only they can do this themselves, but they have to be willing to do this own there accord too. Sadly this is rare and your better off investing your time and happiness with someone that holds the same respect your willing to give them. I know the feeling of having someone you care about go off and do these kinds of things behind your back without you knowing. It kind of destroys the fabric of how you look at people sometimes. I can't think of no worse line when we where in bed than my ex actually saying verbatim every so often "Baby I love how we trust each other so much we can go out and not have to worry about what the other is up to"....if that wasn't a red flag I don't know what else was. Needless to say it led me to this tale:http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t253971/ I wish you the best of luck.
Author cuppycake Posted December 10, 2010 Author Posted December 10, 2010 You guys are right, thanks so much I know what I have to do now. I will just move on.
three Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 What a douche.. Walk away with your dignity. Don't worry, the next guy will be a lot better! Good Luck
strangeways Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 He sounds like a real piece of work. Some people are just broken. They deserve each other and you deserve WAY better. Time to walk away with your head held high.
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