ohwoah Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 (edited) I guess this goes here, at least for now because I would like for us to still be friends. Okay bare with me. A few months ago I went on myspace. I created an account using another girls pictures. Actually I used 2 or 3 different girls because I wasn't planning on staying long, privacy etc. I know it was dumb and very wrong but it's the basis of my predictament. I bet you can guess what happened next....yup I found someone I started liking. We talked for several hours everyday. He was really into me, well the other girls' pics and my personality. So the day comes after talking like this for a couple months that he finds out from another girl that it really isn't me. I had no idea, but the girl who's pictued I used is kind of famous at least on youtube. So of course he's upset and I tell him I'm sorry etc. He asks to see pics of me but the next day he has already deleted me as a friend. I try talking to him but no response. So I run into one of his friends and they basically yell at me saying i'm fake and how I haven't showed any pics. I'm hurt because it seems as if he has told his friend all about me. I show him a pic and from the conversation of him and his friend online idk he was like telling about the pic and I also sent an ecard apologizing. He also seemed upset about what happened. That was about 2 months ago and I haven't talked to him since. However, back when I talked to him in October I told him I was going to talk to/contact him again though I didn't say a specific time. My plan was (I'm not sure if I still want to or should even bother) to go take professional maybe like 10 or so pictures and send them to him. I was going to tell him how I feel and that would be my final attempt at contacting him, because I feel no matter what I could say I did everything to try to make up. However now I'm beginning to question my decision and not sure if I should contact him again. I also feel anger towards him and especially his Friend! I want to keep my word but I'm worried I will get hurt if he is mean or ignores me, or he might show the pics to his friend. I feel like rejection from him will be based on my appearance though I know I'm not ugly, just not as pretty as the other girls. Even when things were good he would send mix messages and he lives far away. I'm not sure what I want because sometimes I feel like I like him, yet other times I feel like everything is a huge mess so why bother? I thought maybe we could talk and be friends but he probably doesn't trust me. Also I get he was upset but figured he'd be over it by now. Idk any advice is welcomed Edited December 9, 2010 by ohwoah
TaraMaiden Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 myspace sucks. so does Facebook. Why do people even go on there? I'd lay off there for a while, delete your account, pretend nothing happened, and then if you really feel the need, and can't resist it, start up a new account. Wait 6 months or so. As for him... How old are you both? It sounds as if you're not even out of your teens. Just let it go. It all dies down and goes away in the end. Look at Watergate..... Does he really matter? Is he really worth all this angst? I doubt it..... He's not the big great love in your life, and most likely never will be. So move on, forget it, don't even try to contact him any more, and focus on you.
Livelovelearn Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 I hope i dont come off mean here but seriously, you are way to caught up with this online thing. There are plenty of people outside face to face who you can be friends with. Regardless of how much people do internet dating and how successful it can be at times, i feel like its a bad idea because people can be anyone behind a screen, hence you used someone elses picture which was a bad idea. You shouldnt fall for someone you talk to online especially if you havent been honest with him in the beginning. It sounds like you also have some self esteem issue i would advice you to focus on building your confidence and going out more and meeting guys there. The internet is the easy way out i start to think people have just become to lazy to interact with another asides from using the internet. I would assume that guy didnt take you as serious as you are taking him anyway. So stop worrying about him, work on yourself and meet some friends, offline and online! Good luck
Author ohwoah Posted December 10, 2010 Author Posted December 10, 2010 Thanks for your replies. I agree I am way too caught up and worried about this. It's weird when you spend hours talking to someone everyday like we did. I already deleted the account. I just feel bad about keeping my word because I told him I'd contact him again so I'd end up looking even more like a liar. I guess this sounds silly to say but I really do like him more than anyone I've ever liked before. I didn't meant to start liking him, it just kind of happened over time. I wasn't expecting or planning it. We are both 20 and he is 22 btw. My friend who is 24 said I was in love with him! I feel like such an idiot. He seemed Really upset but you are in right in that he probably wasn't/isn't taking it all as serious as me. He told me he liked to go on there for fun. I'm also having a hard time because I would still like for us to talk and be friends even if online. He used to always talk about me going to see him before he found out about the pics. I'm going to be moving next year in a town pretty close to him for school. I'll admit orginally I had him in mind but now I just feel like it's what I want to do, so having a friend I know there would be nice. I do care about him and want to try and make up......hence I'm focusing on us being friends. I just don't know what I should say. But I agree, now I'm going to work on my confidence and meeting people irl! :-)
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