Was talking/dating a single mom for the past 2 months but now she says shes done

[datdude1415]

Do I still have a chance??

 

I have been talking/dating a 20 year old single mother for the past 2 months. I myself am 22. We have had instant chemistry and sparks from the moment we first met and talked. It has been that way for the past 2 months until Thanksgiving. She had been pressing me about when I would make her my girlfriend. This was always my intention however we still had a lot of things to figure out and I just didnt want to move so fast. Such as our long term future how it would all pan out, our families, her son, her ex, all of these issues had yet to really be set in stone. She kept on telling me she felt as though she wasnt good enough to be my girlfriend. I actually love the girl and fell for her pretty fast. She is a Gemini and I am a Libra apparently the best possible zodiac connection, and in reality we were just that. I go to school an hour away from her and live on campus, she lives on her own in her apartment. The commute is hard and we would only see each other on weekends if she was free from baby duties of course. The day before thanksgiving break I made her my girlfriend going against my better judgement. I returned to my home state where I hadnt been since August. I did not have as much time to talk to her while I was at home because I had a lot of friends and family to catch up with. When I returned to school we decided it would be best if werent a couple and take things slower. She admitted I was right and we rushed into it and slowing down would be best. This past Friday I saw her for the first time in 2 weeks. She told me we werent gonna be having sex anymore because were supposed to be slowing down. I was pissed because I was horny and Im a guy. I took this out on her and compeltedly acted like an * * * * * * * and made it seem like thats all she meant to me when I actually really am in love with her and love everything about her. I said some more things I didnt mean out of anger, she left, and decided we were only going to be friends from now on and out romantic relationship chapter is closed. I told her I cant just be friends with her because I really love her and cant be friends when I have such strong feelings towards her. I apologized to her and realized what a complete douche I acted onFriday. She said she made her decision and wasnt going to go back on it because thats something she prides herself on is not looking back. She said had I apologized and went after her that same day she wouldnt have set this decision in stone. I told her I cant be friends and cant talk to her anymore because it would just make things harder. She has decreased contact but hasnt cut it off by any means even though that is what I asked. She has sent me texts like we usually exchanged when we were dating and called like twice but I missed both. She did tell me now was not a good time and she thought she was ready for a relationship but wasnt. She has been putting a lot of responsibilities off to be with me and spend time with me. I feel like an a - hole because I realize she has a lot on her plate as a mom and I took her and our time for granted. I only added to the stress. Anyways, I am in love with this girl even with the fact that shes a mom. She is very special to me. Is this really over? Do I have any chance to get her back? She says shes still in love with me but shes gonna have to start the process of falling out of love with me. This is clear as she has definitely cut our contact when we used to talk all the time. How do I get her back and is she really over me?

 

She said she was done yet she still called and texted afterwards even though I told her no contact would be best. She has told me shes still in love with me, shes texted me sweet texts checking up on me, texted me hearts. In my opinion I dont think shes done, I think she just needs this time to reevaluate things and get all the things she was putting off done.

[PegNosePete]

You've only been dating her for 2 months? That is way too soon to be talking about long-term future, families, her son, and issues being set in stone.

 

Move on dude. She has ended it, but she's keeping you hanging on as a backup plan/support network/emotional tampon.

[jerbear]

2 months is short for anything. She is a mom and right now it is not easy for her. Plus no sex... hmm... well slowing down and no sex is her version of putting you down gently.

 

It is short for, "it's not you, it's me"