hurtingandconfused Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 I feel like talking to ex and letting her know how I feel. This pain, that will not go away. I want to tell her that she has made me feel empty and miserable. I also want to tell her that I don't want her back, and never want to hear from her again. I want to tell her that I do not love her anymore, and that I had doubts from the first time we went out.
Author hurtingandconfused Posted March 13, 2004 Author Posted March 13, 2004 just got a hold of myself...sorry
Fraggles Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 Sounds like you still have feelings for her. Ok, they are negative but they are feelings. Passion involves strong feelings, not necessarily positive. By contacting her, you are letting her know this. Do you want her to know you still feel for her? Even if you say the things you typed, you still contacted her. Has she contacted you? Is this in response to her? Or is this just a compulsion on your part. Sorry, I am not sure of your exact story.
Author hurtingandconfused Posted March 13, 2004 Author Posted March 13, 2004 She broke up with me 2 months ago. we were together for 3 years. I'm going through this phaze. We were each others first love. Nothing can make me feel better other than myself. I know that if she returns I will not accept her forgiveness. I have to do this myself but sometimes I feel empty, as if I need her. I know that I will overcome this feeling, but it is hard. Have you heard that quote...""It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all."" Well I don't know...The pain just makes me second guess that quote. I want to say that I wish that I never met her. If only I would not have ditched my P.E class and went her history class. If only I didn't meet her, I would be somewhere else. ya well..If only...Now I have to live with.."what if."
Fraggles Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 Yeah, time, it takes time. Sucks doesnt it? I am sorry about your pain. I hope you move through it with the least possible amount of suffering. I am experiencing pain also. the pain of being a betrayed spouse. We are working it out and hubby is now being all that he should be, but that does not erase what has been done. Time heals all wounds. We'll get there. Hang tight hurt!
NotaBadGuy Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 Hurting, I feel your pain. My ex wife left back in November. I am still caught up on what happened. SHe has called me 2x since and done nothing but dmamge control. The 2nd time she called i spoke my mind. I let her know that she did not suceed in lying to my face and that I hope she has a great life with the loser she was with. Even if she decides one day that superboy is even succeptable to kryptonite and gives me the CALL, I will have to shut her down. I am about to enter the my profession with no baggage. I do not need that drama and will not accept a cheating spouse. I know what you mean about the pain associated with the whole dilema. Just remember to always remember where you are right now. Always remember the feeling, the pain, the hurt, and everything associated with it. You will battle through the pain and hurt that you are expreiencing right now and eventually end up on top. It is these times that truly define your character. I am in the same boat, and I was left in November. Life still sucks at times, but every day I move one step closer to complete control of things. Good luck and keep your head up.
moimeme Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 Write. Write her letters but don't send them. Write in a journal. Dump out all your feelings onto paper. Sounds lame, but a lot of people find it helps very much.
dijenush Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 i'm kind of in the same situation you are. i would like him to call, just in order not to answer and all these things. I realised that i think less of him when I go out with friends. i also postponed everything, as to get stressed and not to think of him. That also worked fine . so...dunno...lat her be.
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