greengoddess Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 :laugh: You always read this. The poor bitter betrayed wife. That the mm is their soulmate. That the affair makes them happy happy happy That the betrayed wife is left bitter. Ahhh but is this really true? If you threw his/her butt out were you left bitter or are you happier now? Oftentimes I think the betrayed wife is so much happier. She is rid of the cheating slime, she gets a kid break every other weekend to have some time to herself while still being the main loving parent and she often collects alimony and child support. Really I think it is the new love ow/om that end up bitter. They have to take grumpy kids that don't want to be with them every other weekend. They watch all the money go out the door to support his old family. I really think they end up with a ton of bitterness and resentment toward the wife not the other way around. The wife gets over it and moves on while the ow is stuck with the kids that aren't hers and half her loves money going to another woman.:laugh: So to sum it up. If you are bitter now there is hope for you!! It will turn around!!!!
kgregory922 Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 The poor bitter betrayed wife? My husband is my soulmate, that doesn't mean he is perfect. I do believe my husband is having an affair. Affairs happen for many reasons. Anyone is capable of having an affair. Im going to sit back and let my husband do what he needs to do, he will come back begging and pleading for forgiveness. I'm not going to throw away my marriage on an "office bimbo". It is very rare that a husband leave his wife and family for the "other woman". They think there in love, its exciting, its fun, its a thrill but he doesn't want to leave the stability of his wife. I am not a bitter wife, people make mistakes, we are human.I know when this romance "fizzles out" he will be here with me. It sucks, it hurts and I have shed many tears but i am not going to let this B***CH ruin my marriage. If the other woman did not want to deal with her married mans kids then she shouldn't have made the decision to be with him. Also... I am a firm believer in KARMA, What goes around comes around. Smarten up people and cheaters, one day it might be you whos getting cheated on. Good luck to all 1
BB07 Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 :laugh: You always read this. The poor bitter betrayed wife. Seems your post is full of a lot of generalizations, as you said always. That the mm is their soulmate. That the affair makes them happy happy happy That the betrayed wife is left bitter. Ahh.........seems like I remember reading the above from one very recent post. Ahhh but is this really true? If you threw his/her butt out were you left bitter or are you happier now? Oftentimes I think the betrayed wife is so much happier. She is rid of the cheating slime, she gets a kid break every other weekend to have some time to herself while still being the main loving parent and she often collects alimony and child support. You could very well be right about the above. Really I think it is the new love ow/om that end up bitter. They have to take grumpy kids that don't want to be with them every other weekend. They watch all the money go out the door to support his old family. I really think they end up with a ton of bitterness and resentment toward the wife not the other way around. The wife gets over it and moves on while the ow is stuck with the kids that aren't hers and half her loves money going to another woman.:laugh: So to sum it up. If you are bitter now there is hope for you!! It will turn around!!!! Again a lot of generalizations in your above statement and to me it sounds like your goal is to ruffle some feathers. As for me and my former status, I'm not bitter, still angry sometimes at myself and him but like the wife that you describe in the above scenario, I'm very glad to be rid of the garbage in my life, while he.........will I don't know and don't care what he is or what he is doing and well if his wife is with him, then I pity her. I'm free! 1
Dexter Morgan Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 I am not a bitter wife, people make mistakes, we are human. cheating isn't a mistake, its a conscious decision to cheat and gratify oneself with someone new. I know when this romance "fizzles out" he will be here with me. until the next floosy bats her eyes at him. It sucks, it hurts and I have shed many tears but i am not going to let this B***CH ruin my marriage. although she is responsible for her part in the affair, the one that would end up ruining the marriage is your H. you seem to be madder at her than him. trust me, you should be mad at her. But this being the case you should be equally and more mad at your H. If the other woman did not want to deal with her married mans kids then she shouldn't have made the decision to be with him. again, i understand the anger towards her, but your husband needs to feel the wrath more so than the OW.
2sure Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Eh, I'm newly divorced from a serial cheater and must admit that even I have noticed I'm more...sarcastic and slightly ball busting now, so I guess I'm bitter. BUT I do other women who have ended up divorced over infidelity and I can tell you this: The moment the papers are signed, it is their most fervent wish that the Ex WS end up with the OW. Its the best way to see comeuppance.
Spark1111 Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 fBS here......happily reconciled. What the hell do I have to be bitter about? I am the same strong, happy, resourceful woman I have always been, maybe stronger today as a result of his infidelity. I think she is bitter she didn't win "the prize." I think she is bitter to be dating a nice, ordinary guy and compared to the illicit affair with my H, she finds it somewhat "boring." Plus, there isn't enough money anymore to take trips and limos. I think he is bitter that he sacrificed his integrity, reputation, my trust, our children's admiration, and his legacy for a very needy woman who turned out to be the only person on the planet who would willingly encourage him to forsake all he held dear to enter into an affair with him. Why in the world should I be bitter? He treats me like a queen, can't keep his hands off me, sends me flowers and cards for no reason at all, is hopelessly in love with me and oh-so grateful I gave him another chance. I still have great kids, a good job, many wonderful and supportive friends and family AND a sterling reputation and my integrity intact. What is there to be bitter about? 1
TigerCub Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 With all due respect GG, I think you're making it sound so much more simplistic than it is. Oftentimes I think the betrayed wife is so much happier. Sure, I can see the BW feeling better in the long run, but you're making it sound like the affair never caused her a tremendous amount of pain and hurt, and that there were never any moments where she doubted herself and her abilities and thought "what is it about this OW that made him risk and ruin what we had?" She is rid of the cheating slime, That's true and that's all good ... but she gets a kid break every other weekend to have some time to herself while still being the main loving parent and she often collects alimony and child support. So does the BW never really think of what her cheating husband is doing in his own kid free time? Really I think it is the new love ow/om that end up bitter. They have to take grumpy kids that don't want to be with them every other weekend. hehe, well every situation is different, and I'm sure not all kids are a nightmare to be around - Also, doesn't that BW care and is upset that her kids are with that OW that she so hates and thinks so little of? They watch all the money go out the door to support his old family. Not everyone is so concerned with money - a lot of the OW these days have jobs and their own income. Sure some women out there want the guy to be the equivalent of their credit cards - but that's not everyone. Money doesn't mean the same thing to all people. So to sum it up. If you are bitter now there is hope for you!! It will turn around!!!! Well, I'm glad that you're not bitter, although your simplistic and way too generalized post makes me wonder. But I really do hope that you're not bitter and that you are indeed very happy. as an xOW - I can relate to that notion of being happy to finally not have a liar in my life. It was always in the back of my mind that even if we did work out (which I didn't think we would) - I wouldn't be able to trust him - and so, yes I can see what you mean with that one. I do believe that your post was a bit too simplistic and it skipped over all the pain and hurt that is caused to the BW (because if none of that existed, then really what is the argument against cheating?) 1
whichwayisup Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 cheating isn't a mistake Yes you are right. The mistake made is allowing "it" to esclate and allow oneself to get too close. Even that is a decision, a choice to be made. A thought put into action (Wow, I have feelings for that person and now I'm going to go out to dinner with them, get to know them better see what happens next) instead of it just being a thought and making the decision to leave it alone. Selfish and stupid choices, not mistakes.
NoIDidn't Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Hehe. <sarcasm on> I was bitter before marriage and any affair. It makes total sense that I would STILL be that way. <sarcasm off> I think a thread should be started on bitter OPs. They exist. Forums are full of them. Including the ones that married the MM and realize that their is no pot of gold at the end of the affair rainbow. When OW use it, they mean it to demean the W. But it seems perfectly okay for them to express this human emotion when things don't turn out their way. They can blame the "bitter" W that he stayed. Or the bitter exW that they'll claim is interfering in their happiness. Or they can blame the "spineless" MM. I bet MM get tired of being called spineless. I've said it enough myself, so I know at least one person that has stated that. There just seem to be hot button phrases used when discussing infidelity. There is one for everyone. I ignore it.
bentnotbroken Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 IF you're bitter and you know clap your hands:lmao:.....and you truly want to show it....post on here and let an AP/WS call you one.
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