gazza_7 Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 I am writing this in pieces. It is more for my own benefit and to get things off my chest. I cannot speak to my wife anymore so typing into a PC is probably the next best thing. My wife has left me. She has been asking for a separation for about three months now. We've been living together during that time and I kept putting the pressure on her which quite obviously made everything worse. Anyway, I moved out two days ago. Tried speaking to her and now she wants nothing to do with me. Has asked me to stop calling. I know I will have to but its bloody difficult. Just want to be with her and try and make things right. But it just makes everything worse. The breakup is largely my fault. Not been the greatest husband. Too much drinking and arguing when drunk. I so regret it. We've discussed divorce but because she will not talk not really sure where we are with that. I just produce bad feelings in her now. I'm pretty sure there is nobody else involved. But emotionally she feels nothing for me now. Why can't she see that we could have got back to where we were if only we both made the effort? Now she just does not want to hear my voice. The worse thing is that the tenancy on our flat expires in two months. I am afraid she'll go back home after that - she is an African living in the UK. I am so friggin depressed...... Just want my baby back....
meda1 Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 better to give a bit of space i think, drink can be a devil of a thing when it comes to arguements especialy when your sober and trying to explain and excuse yourself, the key is space, bide your time because as you have found out pressuring is not the way, find a girl who you realy trust and are most definately just friends with to speak to, trust me, "know thy enemy" (i mean that in the best possible way!!)
Damaged23 Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Gazza7, I am soo sorry your going through such pain, but like Meda1 said, give some space, she asked you to stop calling, listen to her. Give her some time to see if she can sort her feelings out. It's going to be hard, but you need to do it. She has made the decision of leaving you, and you have no control over her actions. Give her time, maybe she'll decide to come back, maybe not; if she doesn't, you have to keep going with your life. I wish you luck!
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