bsilmb Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 hey, so I'm a junior in high school. 16, 6'2", I weigh around 165. pretty built, working on a six pack. im not trying to brag, just help explain my experience, but I don't care about that, because today I got my braces off a few friends said it makes me look different in a GOOD way. and I haven't had much luck with dating girls. NEVER been kissed or dated someone for more than a month. I have quite a few female friends and have a class where it's about thirty gird and two guys, so it forced me to talk to upperclassmen girls on a regular basis. I'm kinda shy in the class, but they still think I'm funny and nice. there's a few I think have a crush on me. she's always saying I have an awesome taste in music and tries to talk to me everyday. but that's besides the point. my point is that i haven't had too much confidence with girls, so I would talk to them, but feared rejection or loss of friendship, so I never really made an attempt to date them. I'm trying to get over that because I have this strange newfound confidence from the braces coming off. I've never been told I'm ugly, in fact some girls think I'm cute, but I hate this acne I've had for a couple years. I've been taking medicine for it and it's gotten better, but I really just wanna get rid of it. so ladies, what do you think of how I look: http://i922.photobucket.com/albums/ad69/bsvs/2010-12-08161843.jpg that's me as of yesterday please rate me on a scale of 1-10 and what I could do to look better. and hoe should I approach girls and talk and eventually ask them out ?? I'm no player, cuz I'm not good with flirting with girls. I just talk to them an treat them like anyone else, but I really want to find a girlfriend. I just need tips and stuff! please help me (: thanks so much in advance.
kiss_andmakeup Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 You look very young. Too young for me to really assess your potential attractive-ness, since all I see when I look at you is a kid. Sorry. You might have better luck on a forum that has more people in your age group.
Author bsilmb Posted December 9, 2010 Author Posted December 9, 2010 You look very young. Too young for me to really assess your potential attractive-ness, since all I see when I look at you is a kid. Sorry. You might have better luck on a forum that has more people in your age group. yeah I guess 16 is pretty young. I just thought advice from. adults with experience would be good.
Author bsilmb Posted December 9, 2010 Author Posted December 9, 2010 can y'all please rate me on 1-10 and what I could do to look better. I know I'm only 16 but I just need some advice no hard feelings, it's just criticism, please don't insult though. thanks.
Author bsilmb Posted December 9, 2010 Author Posted December 9, 2010 and if you can, please look a my other 3 pics. thanks.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Go make an appointment with your dermatologist and get on tretonoin or benzoyl peroxide. The only thing you have to worry about is clearing up your skin so you don't end up with scars in your 20s. Total assessment- You're good to go as long as you work on your assertiveness. Girls in high school date guys who their friends like. They're always hanging out in cliques and if you want to date the prettiest girl in the school, you're going to have to flirt, get with the jocks and the misfits, and you're in. Geez... high school.... good times, good times.
Author bsilmb Posted December 9, 2010 Author Posted December 9, 2010 Go make an appointment with your dermatologist and get on tretonoin or benzoyl peroxide. The only thing you have to worry about is clearing up your skin so you don't end up with scars in your 20s. Total assessment- You're good to go as long as you work on your assertiveness. Girls in high school date guys who their friends like. They're always hanging out in cliques and if you want to date the prettiest girl in the school, you're going to have to flirt, get with the jocks and the misfits, and you're in. Geez... high school.... good times, good times. haha thanks. I'm on that actually, it's getting better. yeah I just am bad with timing ..
Madgick1 Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Girls care less about looks, and more about personality. Devlop that. And good luck.
Green Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Dude I had more pimples then you when I was 16 they actualy all pretty much went away on there own after high school. Becareful with acne medication especialy the ones you swallow they can F U UP. If I were you I'd just keep ur face clean with soap and water and be sure to shower after you sweat and work out. You sound a lot more attractive then I was at 16... I only weighed like 138 or something low like that. Making a thread like this and asking LADIES what they think is a REALLY BAD IDEA. I mean do you really want people criticizing you... and do you really need the praise??? Didn't I tell you to stop overanalyzing sht!!!! Take down your photobucket pic... YOu are not here to be judged. Don't ever place yourself in that position either. You have ALL the tools you need to get a gf. I told you what to do. I told you that YOU ALREADY KNEW WHAT TO DO.. but OVERANALYZE... this thread being an example of how you overanalyze.. YOUR QUESTIONING ur looks. I too am a tall man... and believe me it helps... but I never got a gf until after COLLEGE... and you know what I'm FINE WITH THAT. I like who I am... the best advice I could give myself is to not worry about everything like this and JUST BE MYSELF... IF I had JUST ASKED OUT GIRLS I LIKED and been myself... which includes KISSING/TOUCHING/FLIRTING with the girls I liked... I would have done great... So I didn't get my first real kiss or gf till after college... I still had a pretty good life... and when I did start getting gf's I apreciated more and enjoyed it more. Heck I'm the horniest man alive and that helped. Worry about WHO YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE and not what THEY think of YOU.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 haha thanks. I'm on that actually, it's getting better. yeah I just am bad with timing .. Also change your diet. Most likely if it's not hormones, it's your diet. Try to detox for a bit and see how that works. And whatever that other poster said, your looks actually do matter, even if you don't date in high school, you want to look hot in college. So take high school as a learning curve on asking out girls like trying to beat a video game. Don't worry too much about rejection and just go for it. Chances are even if you don't end up in a relationship you make enough friends who can introduce you to their girl friends in the future. Yep start working on that assertiveness.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Dude I had more pimples then you when I was 16 they actualy all pretty much went away on there own after high school. Becareful with acne medication especialy the ones you swallow they can F U UP. If I were you I'd just keep ur face clean with soap and water and be sure to shower after you sweat and work out. . Green the medication I recommended are not oral medications. They're both creams and are scientifically proven to be good against acne. Also, soap clogs pores, if the OP needs to keep a good regimen, he needs to use Tretinoin and take care of his skin properly. OP, this may sound a little strange but I recommend you do a detox facial twice a week. Tretinoin and Benzoyl has a habit of drying your skin, so replenish twice a week with a home facial mask ( go to an asian store or your local dept store and ask for detox/ moisture masks). Given where you live, the environment can be particuarly drying for your skin. You want to let your skin " breathe" every moment it gets. If you follow my advice, I can almost gaurantee you can clear your skin in a month or two. But make sure you eat organically and DRINK alot of water.
Green Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Green the medication I recommended are not oral medications. They're both creams and are scientifically proven to be good against acne. Also, soap clogs pores, if the OP needs to keep a good regimen, he needs to use Tretinoin and take care of his skin properly. OP, this may sound a little strange but I recommend you do a detox facial twice a week. Tretinoin and Benzoyl has a habit of drying your skin, so replenish twice a week with a home facial mask ( go to an asian store or your local dept store and ask for detox/ moisture masks). Given where you live, the environment can be particuarly drying for your skin. You want to let your skin " breathe" every moment it gets. If you follow my advice, I can almost gaurantee you can clear your skin in a month or two. But make sure you eat organically and DRINK alot of water. I have the greatest skin around and I got it simply by waiting out my teenage years. If you are like me you will see most if not all the pimples disapear by the time you are in college.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 I have the greatest skin around and I got it simply by waiting out my teenage years. If you are like me you will see most if not all the pimples disapear by the time you are in college. Yeah no problem waiting it out, but I doubt the OP will feel confident two years on. If clear skin will boost his confidence a little, he may as well go for it... Nothing to lose except a month or two in changing his habits. Acne has been known to be psychologically damaging to a person. Maybe not you Green, but I know a lot of people who never got the skin they wanted. In fact, I have a good friend from junior high, who had severe acne by the time we got to high school. My friend did everything, Proactive, Clearisil, Clean& Clear, etc. only to have her face completely ruined with spots and scars. Nowadays, she has to apply foundation to try to hide her scars. I think she's trying to get laser. If I can't help the OP's dating problems, I may as well help his skin. Paying a few dollars for facial masks and organic food is better than to spend close to $2000 in the future to get laser surgery.
Green Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Yeah no problem waiting it out, but I doubt the OP will feel confident two years on. If clear skin will boost his confidence a little, he may as well go for it... Nothing to lose except a month or two in changing his habits. Acne has been known to be psychologically damaging to a person. Maybe not you Green, but I know a lot of people who never got the skin they wanted. In fact, I have a good friend from junior high, who had severe acne by the time we got to high school. My friend did everything, Proactive, Clearisil, Clean& Clear, etc. only to have her face completely ruined with spots and scars. Nowadays, she has to apply foundation to try to hide her scars. I think she's trying to get laser. If I can't help the OP's dating problems, I may as well help his skin. Paying a few dollars for facial masks and organic food is better than to spend close to $2000 in the future to get laser surgery. Yeah but he doesn't really have bad acne, not the type that will need facial surgery. It just looks like a 16 year old guy to me
xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Yeah but he doesn't really have bad acne, not the type that will need facial surgery. It just looks like a 16 year old guy to me Well when was the last time you were 16? Most 16 yo nowadays are anything but superficial. Even girls as young as 11 are wearing makeup. If a sixteen year old boy comes on here posting a picture asking us if he looks attractive, he obviously has problems with the way he looks ( evidenced by his need to be validated by others to tell him how attractive he is). Also, I'm not talking about facial surgery now, but sometimes teenage acne can need to scarring in the future. Best way to avoid surgery is prevention and care.
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