Amandabanana6 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I did NC for a full month and recently broke contact to explain to my ex why I deleted him from facebook. (he sent me a text saying it was unclassy) Anyways I texted him a month after that comment saying that I needed to do it so that I could move on (stupid of me to break NC). He pretended that he couldn't remember sending a text. Anyways this whole chain of events has put me back to the beginning. I can't stop thinking about him. Wondering what he's doing, and if he's moved on. I regret breaking NC but I didn't want him to hate me even tho it doesn't matter what he thinks of me. I am in the middle of finals and I can't get this out of my head. It's so hard to study when all I want to do is text him telling him that we could have worked everything out.
Leandro Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I did NC for a full month and recently broke contact to explain to my ex why I deleted him from facebook. (he sent me a text saying it was unclassy) Anyways I texted him a month after that comment saying that I needed to do it so that I could move on (stupid of me to break NC). He pretended that he couldn't remember sending a text. Anyways this whole chain of events has put me back to the beginning. I can't stop thinking about him. Wondering what he's doing, and if he's moved on. I regret breaking NC but I didn't want him to hate me even tho it doesn't matter what he thinks of me. I am in the middle of finals and I can't get this out of my head. It's so hard to study when all I want to do is text him telling him that we could have worked everything out. Please don't break NC!!! His first reply was pretty mean. Can you imagine what he would say this time?? Try very hard to focus on your finals, they are more important than texting him. Don't do it. Come here first if you think about it again.
AlisaMarie Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 Amanda! You said it yourself... the last time you broke NC it led you back to square one! You want your fix! My ex was always the one to come back or text... and the last time he didn't so I broke NC after 2 weeks. I felt like I couldn't let him forget me. It led to us meeting up a couple times and him still telling me he can't bring himself to come back to me. I am feeling the same urges because at least I got to see him and feel him, even though it was gone again. I am coming up on 2 weeks again, and the last thing I said to him was "I will always love you." Finding out after that he was lying to me about another girl and clearly chosing her over me.. I wish I would have said EFF YOU. But now I have to live with the last kind words I said to him. That's how I want him to remember me when it doesn't work out with him and his new hog. Sorry...venting.... don't do it! You know it will only hurt more in the long run. Now respond and tell me not to do it either!
Author Amandabanana6 Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 How do I get over the thought that I can say/do something that will fix this? It always feels like I should try and convince him to come back.
AlisaMarie Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 You can't fix it. And I am pretty sure you know this. You can't change someones mind. As hard as it is to cope with their decision to not be with you...you have to understand that it is indeed the one they made. If you were the dumpee... he put you in that position. If he wanted you back, he'd let you know. They only way you can contact him is if you are OVER it. Then a "hey how you doing" is acceptable. That won't be for a long while! Try to fill the void. Keep talking to fight the urge... I am here.
Author Amandabanana6 Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 Amanda! You said it yourself... the last time you broke NC it led you back to square one! You want your fix! My ex was always the one to come back or text... and the last time he didn't so I broke NC after 2 weeks. I felt like I couldn't let him forget me. It led to us meeting up a couple times and him still telling me he can't bring himself to come back to me. I am feeling the same urges because at least I got to see him and feel him, even though it was gone again. I am coming up on 2 weeks again, and the last thing I said to him was "I will always love you." Finding out after that he was lying to me about another girl and clearly chosing her over me.. I wish I would have said EFF YOU. But now I have to live with the last kind words I said to him. That's how I want him to remember me when it doesn't work out with him and his new hog. Sorry...venting.... don't do it! You know it will only hurt more in the long run. Now respond and tell me not to do it either! It does hurt more in the long run, we both know it. That's why we aren't going to do it. I need to get back to the one month mark...should get easier again...
Leandro Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 the last thing I said to him was "I will always love you." Finding out after that he was lying to me about another girl and clearly chosing her over me.. I wish I would have said EFF YOU. But now I have to live with the last kind words I said to him. That's how I want him to remember me when it doesn't work out with him and his new hog. That happen to me too Alisa!! I feel stupid because of that. But yea, you cant fix it on your own Amanda. You can talk to us whenever you want too.
AlisaMarie Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 Where are you at now? How many days/weeks?
Author Amandabanana6 Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 Where are you at now? How many days/weeks? I'm at 4 days now. I made a mistake tho. The last time I texted him asking if I could get the straightener off him that he bought for me cause mine was broken and I wanted to get a new one for christmas anyways. He bought it for me but I am supposed to pay him back for it. I just wanted an excuse to text him, he should be stuck with the stupid thing. But I regret texting him about it. I don't actually want anymore memories from him. I left the ball in his court as to when we meet for it but how do I get out of it.....is it mean to not respond? Maybe he won't text about it...then he will have a $100 straightener all to himself haha....but if he does I would expect it to be before christmas...cause I wanted it for Christmas.
Author Amandabanana6 Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 That happen to me too Alisa!! I feel stupid because of that. But yea, you cant fix it on your own Amanda. You can talk to us whenever you want too. Thanks...I dont know what I'd do if I didn't find this website.
Leandro Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I'm at 4 days now. I made a mistake tho. The last time I texted him asking if I could get the straightener off him that he bought for me cause mine was broken and I wanted to get a new one for christmas anyways. He bought it for me but I am supposed to pay him back for it. I just wanted an excuse to text him, he should be stuck with the stupid thing. But I regret texting him about it. I don't actually want anymore memories from him. I left the ball in his court as to when we meet for it but how do I get out of it.....is it mean to not respond? Maybe he won't text about it...then he will have a $100 straightener all to himself haha....but if he does I would expect it to be before christmas...cause I wanted it for Christmas. Well that's good that you're on 4 days already. Forget about the straightener, it will only remind you of him every time you use it.
AlisaMarie Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 Yeah! Let him have it! 4 days is still tough... but it's further along then 4 min, or 4 hours. Don't let it go back to that! Before you know it it will be 4 weeks.. months... years! It seems as the days go by so fast, but when I think that it's only been 2 weeks since I've seen his face, it really hasn't been that long. 2 weeks ago tonight I was getting ready to go out with him. I was so excited to get to see him and spend the night with him. Only 2 effin weeks ago... he was with me all night. And now... he's with her. I can't take this.
Leandro Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 Yeah! Let him have it! 4 days is still tough... but it's further along then 4 min, or 4 hours. Don't let it go back to that! Before you know it it will be 4 weeks.. months... years! It seems as the days go by so fast, but when I think that it's only been 2 weeks since I've seen his face, it really hasn't been that long. 2 weeks ago tonight I was getting ready to go out with him. I was so excited to get to see him and spend the night with him. Only 2 effin weeks ago... he was with me all night. And now... he's with her. I can't take this. Yea, it sucks when that crap happens, But it gets better with time.
Author Amandabanana6 Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 Yeah! Let him have it! 4 days is still tough... but it's further along then 4 min, or 4 hours. Don't let it go back to that! Before you know it it will be 4 weeks.. months... years! It seems as the days go by so fast, but when I think that it's only been 2 weeks since I've seen his face, it really hasn't been that long. 2 weeks ago tonight I was getting ready to go out with him. I was so excited to get to see him and spend the night with him. Only 2 effin weeks ago... he was with me all night. And now... he's with her. I can't take this. Ya we both need to take our minds of our exs. I often think like that too. Last time I wore this or that we were together, or last time I went her/there we were together vs now broken up. It's really hard not to look back. I can tell you from my limited experience, the first 2 weeks are the hardest. It gets a bit easier after 2 weeks....at least for me it did, but to warn you it gets hard again at 1 month. Probably because I was thinking WOW one month is a really long time, and he's doing fine without me. Frig'n annoying cycle.
Leandro Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Ya we both need to take our minds of our exs. I often think like that too. Last time I wore this or that we were together, or last time I went her/there we were together vs now broken up. It's really hard not to look back. I can tell you from my limited experience, the first 2 weeks are the hardest. It gets a bit easier after 2 weeks....at least for me it did, but to warn you it gets hard again at 1 month. Probably because I was thinking WOW one month is a really long time, and he's doing fine without me. Frig'n annoying cycle. Yea, I think the first 2 weeks were the hardest for me. At the 1 month mark you realize that it's truly over.
skydiveaddict Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 I am in the middle of finals and I can't get this out of my head. It's so hard to study when all I want to do is text him telling him that we could have worked everything out. DON'T do it again. See what good it did you? Now he's on your brain as well as your finals. Do yourself a favor and stop contacting him. I know how much it hurts, but you won't heal unless you let him go. SDA
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