Author U1987 Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 A 6th girl just responded. She wrote a really long and seemingly interested response. Here's what she said. Hey. Your profile info didn't show up when I looked this morning, but it's there now. It's so funny how you have going to a museum or gallery for a first date. I love working on films and everyone keeps telling me I need to go to a museum. I've been trying to go for over a year now and something always comes up. I see you play bass. That's awesome. I just got a guitar for Christmas and it's one of my goals (hate calling them resolutions. When I do it seems they just beg to be broken) is to learn to play. What do you think of this response? Me: Yeah, I'm not a huge art buff, but I've got a bit of an eye for modern art. I saw some really cool one recently; black, white and orange prints on milk cartons, tasteful nudes done in the classical style, except they all had tattoos. Anyway, congrats on the new guitar. Let me give you advance warning though; your hands and fingers are gonna hurt like hell after the first day you play it, but they'll toughen up fast and it'll be so worth it once you got a few chords and riffs down. Good luck learning with a pick though; I never had that kind of precision, which is why I picked up the bass. What kinds of films do you do? Then after she replies, go for the number?
BackUpOrGetStung Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 (edited) What can I say? I'm a nerd at heart. Anyway, you look like a really clean-cut girl. I can't believe you have a "tendency for getting in trouble." I bet you have some stories. Let me guess; Jagger and chocolate was involved? Just say that to her. Your response to the most recent one is good. BobSacamento brought up a good point. Whether you're just practicing or not, at some point you want to meet someone in person. If you can't figure out how to answer questions when you have an indefinite amount of time to think about it, then you are going to fail miserably in a face to face meeting. There are a lot of stupid girls on there though, so maybe you can fool one. I've done all I'm going to do for you, good luck. Edited January 4, 2011 by BackUpOrGetStung
Author U1987 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 scratch this reply, will post later.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 (edited) OP, I see your problem. you respond to these girls as though you were face to face in conversation with them... that's not how it's done, & I don't even online date. I do text & email women I date/want to date (several I hardly know that well) so my advice is relevant. what you say to get one on one with a girl IS DIFFERENT than what you talk about when you're face to face! stop answering questions/giving (so much) new info about yourself; especially when these girls are offering so much you can be playful about. you need to learn to make jokes, poke fun at, or otherwise be unique and relevant WITHOUT necessarily answering questions. doing this properly makes women want to meet you face to face because they want to learn about you. frankly, there's nothing to learn if you spill your guts. for example, the girl who said she's into film... think of the funniest stereotypical film/artsy girl and start poking at her. e.g. "hmmm... you definitely seem like the artsy type; only thing missing was the overarching, subtlely-sarcastic overtones in your last email. you sure you play guitar?? ;p" I dunno. something funny. that's just off the top of my head. that gives zero info about you, yet would at least generate a smile once she read it, thus maximizing the chance she'd start up a dialogue. Edited January 12, 2011 by ConflictedGuy27
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