murah989 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 (edited) This goes out to everyone. The title is pretty self-explanatory. When I used to look at PUA or just normal dating tips, some of the most important things about dating were " never talk about politics, mental issues, or just issues in general on the first three dates". I've lived with IBD about my entire life, and I think its important to bring up issues like that on the second or third date so that they are made aware of it. However, I sometimes get the feeling that when your date hears that, they automatically dismiss you out of fear. It has always been a big insecurity of mine. Lets take a moment of honesty LS...If your date told you they had a chronic disease, would you consider to still see them? Edited December 8, 2010 by murah989
JamesM Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 It depends on how much I loved them. Here is a reverse question...would you want someone to date you and then marry you if they did not feel they could accept you with your chronic illness? Do you want to marry someone who cannot respect you and love you in spite of your illness? Don't you want someone who is willing to help you when you are feeling the worst simply because they love you and choose to? Many cannot handle a partner who has an illness, but many can because they love the person despite the illness. I think that dating is when we should be critical of who we expect to marry and also decide if we can handle the person's weaknesses. Too many people date and really do not consider what all a condition or illness entails (and I include myself in that). Then when the times get tough, they split. You want someone who can handle your condition, but you want someone who has researched IBD with all of its possible complications. This may limit your choices, but your choices will also be only good ones for you.
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