darran Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 So my ex ended it around 2-3 months back...I hurt her feelings real bad and basically screwed up. No cheating or physical harm, just downright stupid behaviour. We've been in contact pretty much all the time. Yesterday we had a pretty serious chat. We were meant to meet on Thursday but she cancelled and I just wondered why so asked what was up. She said she didn't think it was a good idea...then suddenly burst into tears and was dragging everything that happened for her to break up with me back up. She started saying she still really loves me, that she has not moved on at all but she just cant see us together and sees no future with me...all really hurtful things but I was ok, I mean, I know where I went wrong so I just listened. Anyway, after she told me she still loved me and hadn't moved on at all I told her I felt exactly the same only I wasn't holding any resentment and I understand how difficult it must be for her to trust that I wont hurt her again. I suggested we continue talking often and hopefully these feelings will disappear. Roughly about 1 hour later she started to contact me again but this time being really warm...very strange but I was ok. There are times, more so now, that she is very warm and its as if she is "coming back" and then she'd suddenly pull away and become very cold again. I am trying to be as sensitive as I can and let her deal with these feelings her own way. After I suggested we keep talking she said that's all she's been hoping to happen, that these feelings will disappear but at the moment she cant help but feel hurt every time she thinks about coming back. I am assuming the best thing for me to do is just take a step back and leave her be. Has anyone here been in this situation before and can maybe shed a bit of light for me? Thanks
andrew23 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I think women like to hold on to their old emotions and only really let go once they have found someone else. Bit like tarzan swinging from rope to rope. BE CAREFULL
fiat500 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I think women like to hold on to their old emotions and only really let go once they have found someone else. Bit like tarzan swinging from rope to rope. BE CAREFULL Lol. Aren't men the same with their exes?
Author darran Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 yea, I understand that...she has kissed another fella...we are pretty straight down the line with this but she hasn't slept with anyone...yet. She even started calling the same fella my name. This was recently too...I understand and it doesn't really bother me too much. I mean we're broke up. But this is the first time she has went off like this properly...and the first time she's ever mentioned she still REALLY loves me and has not got over me in the slightest. She, as far as I can tell, at this moment has no intentions of coming back to me or going with anyone else either...at least for the moment...well quite possibly for good. Who knows. I'll not put this girl on a pedestal but I have to admit she does play straight ball. She says it how she feels and means it like she says.
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