sinkerswim Posted March 12, 2004 Posted March 12, 2004 Some of you know my story and how my boyfriend didnt exactly break up with me...even though he had 3 chances to. He just told me he needed space and that he didnt know yet IF he wanted to break up. We are engaged and together 8 years. Yes..that is a big decision to make. My problem is... When I met him, he came into my life when I least expected it. I knew he was going to be the guy I fell in love with. I lost my virginity to him, because for some strange reason..I knew he was going to be "the one". If for some bad reason him and I dont end up being together anymore... which I dont know yet... I am having the hardest time dealing with the fact of just that. I gave my trust and my heart to him. I cant ever imagine being with another guy in 'that way"...because I only ever knew him. Its unbearable for me. We always had a great sex life... awesome to be in fact. But now I cant even imagine being with another. I dont WANT to be with another. Just him. If it comes down to the fact we wont be together...not only will I not have the love of my life IN my life anymore.. Which is hard enough...But I have to deal with starting over and I dont think I can do it. Its unbearable.
fredrolin Posted March 12, 2004 Posted March 12, 2004 I have always wondered what that feels like. I am a married man and I have been with the same woman for almost 15 years and all I think about is what it would be like to be with other women. I guess I never knew true love.
UCFKevin Posted March 12, 2004 Posted March 12, 2004 That's why it's usually best to test the waters before plunging in. Have your fun first. I'll have absolutely no regrets when I get married.
moimeme Posted March 12, 2004 Posted March 12, 2004 I cant ever imagine being with another guy in 'that way"...because I only ever knew him You usually can't imagine yourself in a different situation very well. When you get there, it's a whole other story. But I have to deal with starting over and I dont think I can do it. You can do anything. Don't tell yourself you can't. Tell yourself you can - and you will.
shopgrl Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 sinkerswim- Your post brought tears to my eyes. I totally understand where you're coming from. I just got out of a 3 year relationship with my ex who was my first. We were not engaged but pretty close to it. My ex entered my life when I least expected as well. Soon enough we fell in love and I lost my virginity to him because I knew (or at least thought I knew) he was "the one" and that we were going to be together forever. I always said that I would only be that way with one guy. Now what?? It's difficult for me to image being intimate with any other guy and to tell you the truth, I don't even want to be that way with anyone else. As crazy as it sounds, it actually almost scares me to think about it. But I guess only time will tell and maybe your mind (and my mind) will change if the real "Mr. Right" ever comes along. Until then though, take care of yourself. As tough as it may be, give your fiance the space he needs. Marriage is a pretty big step and maybe he just got really cold feet. If I were you, I wouldn't contact him, let him contact you because he's the one with issues, not you. I sympathize with the pain you are feeling and I am here for you.
mach3 Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 Definitely don't rush into anything. I'm a guy, but I just don't let a lot of people into my life, physically or emotionally. And I know it will be strange if I'm with someone other than my Ex, but you can't be telling yourself it will never happen. It just takes time and the right person.
monkey Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 Sinkerswim I know also how you feel, it's been 5 months nearly & i love her more now than ever, i just can't go on like this. I'm trying to get well, but my anxiety is worse because how she is making me feel. Some can just go on & do things, carry on their lives, find other girls, but i can't. The fact that this is happening is impossible to believe, that she can't even email me, i can't live from day to day like this, it's a nightmare
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