ccnaboy2000 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 (edited) I've been NC for a week now, every since the day she broke up with me. She would send me texts telling me she loves me and misses me. Few days passed and she stopped. This morning she sent a text "I know you don't wanna talk to me. I just wanted to let you know I think about you everyday and pray about you everynight. And I still love you so much." I didnt respond. Later in the evening "We are going out for breakfast tommorow morning" I didnt respond. She tried calling. I ignored. Texted again "please stop ignoring me, I wanna see you" I didnt respond. I dunno, she's been texting me more and more. And I keep not responding. I dont know why she wants to go to breakfast, maybe she wants to talk about us. Everything she's said before she sounds really confused. We didn't end on bad terms, we never fought, things just got into a rut in our lives. What should I do? Whats her deal, her contacting me seems to be escalating. I do really love this girl so much. Edited December 8, 2010 by ccnaboy2000
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 Ehh so I figured what the hell. I'm doing so well at this. I'm learning to live with the pain. I'll see if I can hook her heart a little more. I know she's not doing nothing but sitting at home feeling lonely. So I texted her back "Hey sorry I was out playing pool. Cant do breakfast, big job interview tommorow. Goodnight" After falling off the face of the earth for a week and her escalating texts/calls I broke the ice. And put it in a way that I'm doing just fine, and shut her down a little too. I have mixed feelings. But I'm 99% sure it was just to see if I was still into her, and not a reconciliation meet up. Perhaps my standoffishness and me going back to NC for a little while now will escalate them more. Who knows. How'd I do?
PowerOfOne Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 It's been said time and time again. Unless she's banging down your door and committed to working out the issues as to why you broke up then the ex isn't serious about it. I take it you wern't totally for the breakup even if you accpeted the reasons you did? Things are still pretty raw for a little while after a breakup. I wouldn't take too seriously her attention while that's the case. Good text reply btw.
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 (edited) It's been said time and time again. Unless she's banging down your door and committed to working out the issues as to why you broke up then the ex isn't serious about it. I take it you wern't totally for the breakup even if you accpeted the reasons you did? Things are still pretty raw for a little while after a breakup. I wouldn't take too seriously her attention while that's the case. Good text reply btw. THANKS!I thought it was a decent reply. I've been NC for a week, i have my ups and downs, but I feel that response was needed. Kinda inadvertantly shows I'm living my life really, and that she isn't my top priority. And no I didn't want the breakup, but in a way I agree with her reasoning, my life turned to **** with my jobloss. Still her texts are escalating, and I'm just trying to keep her hooked enough while not placing me in the friend-zone ya know. I probably wont be completely NC throughout all this, but very very LC. I've learned my lesson from past relationships, begging pleading crying gets you no where. So I've been very strong through this breakup. I'm sure she's questioning the breakup seeing how she's escalating things. And she does checkout my online dating profile daily. Time will tell. Although I really wish I knew why she wanted to see me so bad! Edited December 8, 2010 by ccnaboy2000
Jdw_Icequeen Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I disagree with them pounding on your door saying they want you back. They have to find a way to open up contact first by testing the waters on how your feeling. Sounds like your doing great with the nc though.. The only way you will really know is to have a conversation with her and see what she says.. Keep your foot down, don't let her play games with you, decide for yourself what you want and stick too it.. Btw awesome job on ignoring her wish I could have done that at one point lol..
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 I disagree with them pounding on your door saying they want you back. They have to find a way to open up contact first by testing the waters on how your feeling. Sounds like your doing great with the nc though.. The only way you will really know is to have a conversation with her and see what she says.. Keep your foot down, don't let her play games with you, decide for yourself what you want and stick too it.. Btw awesome job on ignoring her wish I could have done that at one point lol.. So after declining breakfast this morning, she's continually texting me today, asking me how my job interview went etc. And she wants to have dinner with me. Followed it up with "you have no choice, you and I are going to mini gourmet tonight! =]" I texted her "I'm really busy, sorry. I have to prep for the IT job fair tommorow in Palo Alto" Her response "You still need to eat! I get off at 8" I dunno, she's been texting more and more telling me how much she misses me and loves me and how its killing her. Do I go with it, feel her out, see what she has to say? I am pretty confident I can keep a smile on my face and be cool. Nothing came between us and we never fought. Sh*t just got tough.... Maybe this is her starting to realize she f*cked up?
Jdw_Icequeen Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Lets just put it this way if someone were to come beating on your door begging you back she seems pretty close lol.. However nothing is for sure until you hear it.. Its your choice. Do you really want her back? If you do I would say go for it.
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted December 9, 2010 Author Posted December 9, 2010 Lets just put it this way if someone were to come beating on your door begging you back she seems pretty close lol.. However nothing is for sure until you hear it.. Its your choice. Do you really want her back? If you do I would say go for it. Well i havent responded back yet, still contemplating things. She texted again. "Can I spend the night with you I have to leave at 7am" Deff think she's really missing me, considering the fact we lived together for a long while up until a couple weeks ago. Then again, I don't want to be a booty call either. Ugh this is a hard decision, and yes I want her back. I know things will be a lot better once my life gets stable again and I find work!
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