How long does it take to get over somebody you loved?

[samantha_123]

How long does it take to get over somebody you went out with for 6 and half years (broke up 9 months of that) I don’t understand why im still heart broken …. Its been two months already … How long am I going to fell like this for? I just want to be over this and move on already... How do I get rid of these feelings... He no longer cares about me and broke it off...

[Lauriebell82]

There is no specific time frame for getting over a relationship. It took me 10 months to get over my ex boyfriend and I was the one who broke up with him. It just really depends, but usually it takes a good bit of time to get over a long term relationship. Two months isn't that much time to get over almost 7 years. Instead of "waiting to get over it" why don't you allow yourself to mourn the loss of the relationship. Talk about your feelings with close friends and family, write in a journal, ect. You will eventually get over this relationship, it just my take some time. Hang in there.

[samantha_123]

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[samantha_123]

There is no specific time frame for getting over a relationship. It took me 10 months to get over my ex boyfriend and I was the one who broke up with him. It just really depends, but usually it takes a good bit of time to get over a long term relationship. Two months isn't that much time to get over almost 7 years. Instead of "waiting to get over it" why don't you allow yourself to mourn the loss of the relationship. Talk about your feelings with close friends and family, write in a journal, ect. You will eventually get over this relationship, it just my take some time. Hang in there.

 

He doesn’t seem bothered by the brake up at all. According to him he said that he loved me but he had to make a very difficult decision … because I didn’t meet his “standards”. But I think that his motives were “the grass is greener on the other side syndrome”. Deep down I don’t think he truly loved me because you wouldn’t leave somebody you love to go with other women. Why did you brake up with him for? How long did you guys go out for? I truly doubt he is hurting … I just hate the fact that I am hurting over somebody who doesn’t deserve me … He texted me out of the blue … a few days ago .. I guess an excuse to talk to me just to see if I would texted him back and “keep me on the sideline” sort of a ego boast in a way. He never texted me again….

[jclipse8]

First of all don't feel ashamed that your mourning over somebody who probably isn't, almost every break up has one person on either side, rarely both. For the love thing, that word is thrown around like football's these days so don't dwell on that. You're right if he did love you, he wouldn't have left. And for him to say "you didn't meet his standards," I'm glad I don't know him or you because I would have knocked him out ( I box at USF). As Laurie said, there is no set time, and you can mourn if you want. But keep your head up, because if you don't, you will miss all the other guys that will come in your life. You seem like a sweet person so show that you have some backbone. "When push comes to shove, you taste what you're made of"-Rascal Flatts Make yourself better, hang out with friends, go to the gym, move on with life, and if he wants you back later, you will have the remote as to whether you will shut him down or press repeat. From experience, I would never take an ex back, but you will be the one to ultimately make that decision if it ever occur. Good luck and best wishes

[seenabit]

Time heals all things. I would remove anything that triggers memories, this is a death of a relationship. The feelings your experiencing is loss and grief. People feel the same when a loved one has died. However he lives and moves on and this adds to the suffering. I would do a make over, smile and sing, take control of your life, read a great book, eat some chocolate, do your eyebrows, where lip stick, smile at good looking men, flirt just a little, find yourself a great theme song, play your your theme song, let the wind blow in your hair, dogs love ridding in the back of trucks because there is something to it! Take care of you!..

Edited December 9, 2010 by seenabit

[samantha_123]

First of all don't feel ashamed that your mourning over somebody who probably isn't, almost every break up has one person on either side, rarely both. For the love thing, that word is thrown around like football's these days so don't dwell on that. You're right if he did love you, he wouldn't have left. And for him to say "you didn't meet his standards," I'm glad I don't know him or you because I would have knocked him out ( I box at USF). As Laurie said, there is no set time, and you can mourn if you want. But keep your head up, because if you don't, you will miss all the other guys that will come in your life. You seem like a sweet person so show that you have some backbone. "When push comes to shove, you taste what you're made of"-Rascal Flatts Make yourself better, hang out with friends, go to the gym, move on with life, and if he wants you back later, you will have the remote as to whether you will shut him down or press repeat. From experience, I would never take an ex back, but you will be the one to ultimately make that decision if it ever occur. Good luck and best wishes

 

Im getting over him is by using logic (which is speeding up the time process ) … Because if you really love somebody you will stick with them threw the good and the bad … I met this guy when he was a nobody and he left me when he became a somebody … kind of ironic isn’t it? I really hope in the future he will realize what he has lost… You know the saying you don’t know what you have until its gone. Like my friend who has a psychology degree he will fall off his high horse …. Like she said eventually he has to deal with his feelings inward or outward…

[samantha_123]

Time heals all things. I would remove anything that triggers memories, this is a death of a relationship. The feelings your experiencing is loss and grief. People feel the same when a loved one has died. However he lives and moves on and this adds to the suffering. I would do a make over, smile and sing, take control of your life, read a great book, eat some chocolate, do your eyebrows, where lip stick, smile at good looking men, flirt just a little, find yourself a great theme song, play your your theme song, let the wind blow in your hair, dogs love ridding in the back of trucks because there is something to it! Take care of you!..

 

Yea, I have worked on myself alot ive lost some weight .. paying alot more attention to myself and other things …. Enjoying my new freedoms , my self esteem has improved a lot ( I don’t have my ex putting me down all the time about how I look and about my personality )