Why now? Why this time?

[justin kace]

I don't know what to do!!! I am driving myself crazy and just need to vent and hopefully get some good advice. I am a married 36 year old male and I have returned to school to get a bacholers degree. This semester I needed to take a year long research methods class and was assigned a partner. My partner is absolutely beautiful in body and mind!!! What my problem is that over this semester I have developed strong feelings for this woman and she told me today the feelings are mutual. I didn't tell her how strong the feelings I have for her are.

What is driving me crazy is I love and adore my wife and find her to be just as beautiful, but I can not stop thinking about my research partner. We have to spend a lot of time together doing research and have gotten to know each other very well.

The thoughts I am having are tearing me apart. I do not want to leave my wife but I am so drawn to this woman. I didn't go into being her research partner with any intent of falling for her, but I quickly did and to find out that she feels similarly is ripping me apart. I asked the professor of the class if I could switch partners and was unfortunately denied do to the fact there are no other groups willing to switch.

I don't feel comfortable talking this over with any of my friends because they are also friends with my wife, and my therapist just tells me that the problem is not as big as I am making it. Any advice is much appreciated.

[samantha_123]

I don't know what to do!!! I am driving myself crazy and just need to vent and hopefully get some good advice. I am a married 36 year old male and I have returned to school to get a bacholers degree. This semester I needed to take a year long research methods class and was assigned a partner. My partner is absolutely beautiful in body and mind!!! What my problem is that over this semester I have developed strong feelings for this woman and she told me today the feelings are mutual. I didn't tell her how strong the feelings I have for her are.

What is driving me crazy is I love and adore my wife and find her to be just as beautiful, but I can not stop thinking about my research partner. We have to spend a lot of time together doing research and have gotten to know each other very well.

The thoughts I am having are tearing me apart. I do not want to leave my wife but I am so drawn to this woman. I didn't go into being her research partner with any intent of falling for her, but I quickly did and to find out that she feels similarly is ripping me apart. I asked the professor of the class if I could switch partners and was unfortunately denied do to the fact there are no other groups willing to switch.

I don't feel comfortable talking this over with any of my friends because they are also friends with my wife, and my therapist just tells me that the problem is not as big as I am making it. Any advice is much appreciated.

 

 

Its natural to be attracted to somebody else…. This new women is not respecting your marriage. When somebody can’t respect a marriage it shows her true character. Why would you want to be with a woman like that? That’s if she wants you… I don’t think she would settle for a married man with kids if she is as beautiful as you say she is. In your mind you have build a relationship with her. You’re lusting over her qualities and the idea of her … Us beautiful women like to play mind games and like the attention from guys drooling over them especial a married guy.