Madgick1 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I think women actually lead men on for kicks about as much as men purposely lead women on for kicks.
carhill Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I think women actually lead men on for kicks about as much as men purposely lead women on for kicks. LOL, now if we could just get those two 'types' together In reality, to 'lead' someone on, that someone has to be open to being led on. Savvy leaders have no predisposition to belief and trust so they make lousy followers. It's kinda like liars expect everyone else to lie; con artists are wary of the con, etc. etc. This opinion pertains to 'serial' leader's on, rather than one-off situations; someone who has made a habit of such behaviors. Again, like cheating, lying, conning, etc...
OpenBook Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Very well written. Thanks! Can you tell I have plenty of personal experience with this issue? haha So I can either get pissed off at her because she led me on or simply just give her grace that she considered me at first but decided no. ***** happens in life and you move on. That's how I see the situation. Absolutely! And the next time YOU might be the one doling it out. It's just the way life rolls. So she lost interest at some point. It may briefly bum you out, but it takes NOTHING away from you. No skin off your nose. It just wasn't a match, that's all. Keep moving. Where do you draw the line with open trust in someone vs. having your guard up like everyone is out to hurt you? You have to trust someone at some point or you'll end up lonely. That's very true. The trick is to GRADUALLY give your trust to people, as they prove it to you. Same with your heart. Enjoy their company & have a good time, and let them show you they're trustworthy over time. But in the meantime, guard your heart! Don't let your feelings explode & spill all over the place in the beginning stages. There is a "sweet spot" perfect balance of heart + head for you - but it's up to you to find out where it is. Experience will help. So will good examples - watch other people & how they handle dating, rejection, etc. - and mimic the behavior of those you admire. It'll come with time.
ice salamander Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 No... Men let women lead them on. You can't control other people, only yourself. So it's your job as a man not to let people use you, lead you on, etc... Changing yourself is possible, others... not. -Jaded Heart
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