electricvanilla Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I was at the mall today with my boyfriend...all is going well as I am exploring Sephora. Then all of a sudden my bf comes to the back corner where I was and was like 'We gotta go....we gotta go!' & Im just like...why? He is like...'yeah, it's time for us to leaaavveeee' and he pulls my arm signaling me to walk. He is normally calm and collected, so I thought he was just joking around. As we are leaving he says he spotted his ex in the store. I was and still am sooo annoyed. & of course stupid me, didn't voice my madness as soon as it happened. I just walked fast and lost him in another store. But I know he probably hasn't noticed that I am/was bothered by this. I have never had an ex before....he is my first boyfried...so I am a bit confused as to why he would react like this. I mean usually people just ignore or say hello and go on with their lives. To me I feel like he doesn't want to be seen with me? Or maybe he still has feelings for her? I really don't know what to think, bc I have no perspective on EX-situations. Can anyone could offer some light?
collegeguy_24 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 It could be beacuse she is psycho. My very first ex was a crazy psyco person, and with both people I have dated afterward, whenever we ran into her I would get my date out. Some people just get psychos for exes, my first ex was, his ex could be to.
slownumbers81 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I wouldn't worry about it too much to be honest. Sometimes it is just awkward running into an ex, especially if things didn't end on a good note or if there was awkwardness left behind.
reservoirdog1 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 Any number of possibilities, many of which shouldn't cause you annoyance. For example: 1. She's a psycho. 2. He ended it with her and she was pissed about it for ages, and he worries she still is. 3. It would just be too awkward. 4. He hates her guts. You haven't had an ex before, so you don't have a common frame of reference. Running into an ex is very often not just a simple matter of "saying hello and going on with your lives". Best thing you can do in this case is TALK TO HIM. Tell him that you were annoyed by this but were thinking maybe you shouldn't have been, and ask him to tell you why he wanted the two of you to leave the store so quickly. Tell him, in a calm, non-threatening, non-angry way, that you just want to understand.
Lemontang Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 Another possibility is and I'm not trying to stir the pot here, but he may have unresolved feelings for her still too, be it positive or negative when I run into most of my ex's I'm pretty cool about it, but then I'm friends with most of them. I'm even having breakfast with one this Saturday with my girlfriend. One however I'll admit I still have issues with, despite moving on and with a fantastic person now. So would want to get the heck out of there but then she was a real phyco as well when it came to ex's and heaven forbid what she'd do if she saw me with someone. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if she had a go at my girlfriend if she saw her. But I'd never get back with her even though I care for her still, I have no respect for her (in summery she was a serial cheat & alcoholic).
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