nea clementine Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 As what the title says - yay! That's one small step for a broken-hearted, one giant step for splitvillagers. LOL! (I have no idea wht I'm talking about. Where's the champagne?) *clink*
Author nea clementine Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 Thank you, everyone! Yes, it really wasn't easy. I needed to always remind myself of the bigger picture. I swear by NC.
lonewolfncub Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 congrats. i am almost there.. .days away. although not to rain on the parade here... i am starting to wonder if it's any use. i am still, as sad as ever. we've been over for six months, and i've been no contact with her for nearly two months. maybe my situation is different because she moved halfway across the world--so maybe NC doesnt matter that much in my case cause we don't see each other anyway (so by "NC" i mean no chat, no email. ive also took her off facebook and every form of communication) i still check, from time to time, her twitter and facebook profile (cant see the wall but can still her pics). it's bad.. and sad. nearly two months NC for me and six months since breakup and i still haven't moved on...
Author nea clementine Posted December 11, 2010 Author Posted December 11, 2010 congrats. i am almost there.. .days away. although not to rain on the parade here... i am starting to wonder if it's any use. i am still, as sad as ever. we've been over for six months, and i've been no contact with her for nearly two months. maybe my situation is different because she moved halfway across the world--so maybe NC doesnt matter that much in my case cause we don't see each other anyway (so by "NC" i mean no chat, no email. ive also took her off facebook and every form of communication) i still check, from time to time, her twitter and facebook profile (cant see the wall but can still her pics). it's bad.. and sad. nearly two months NC for me and six months since breakup and i still haven't moved on... Hi there lonewolfncub, Me and him was in a rather similar situation - sort of. He travels for a living, and after the break up, we were still keeping the limited contact for over a year. We broke up in july last year. As so many LSers here have I'm sure experienced, he offered friendship. I promised myself back then I would guard my heart, I would not fall, I would show the grace of letting go. And as everyone here has professed: the opposite happened. I fell for him, again. After the breakup, we did not meet for about 10 mths, but were still in contact. I tried so many times to stick to NC (three times before this, I believe - the longest back then being 45 days). When he heard of my plan to travel to the States (I live in Asia), he wanted to meet. I thought, "What's the worst that could happen? I am thinking less and less of him nowadays." So, we met. We spent some time together, and on those days memories kept coming back. I told him I was still interested. He told me he never wanted to talk about relationships anymore, and that he hd never thought of being in a relationship. That did it for me. I went back home, licking my wound, had my pity party (again!), volunteered teaching after hours at school, and never look back. I am starting to build a new life for me, and, God willing, my future partner. So, I hear what you are saying. I just want to point out that it does take time, and numerous efforts, not only to start, but to stick to NC. But if I can do this (after the 4th try!), then I have no doubt in my mind that you can pull this off as well. Keep us updated on your progress. We're here to help and support one another
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