ChillHill Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 What does NC mean? It wouldn't let me search for it.
cerridwen Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 No Contact. A member named Carhill has a signature file with a link to a "guide" about NC. It's very useful. Search for posts by Carhill.
TaraMaiden Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 The Caliguy Link is in my signature. It's brilliant, and works 100%, if you apply it 100%. Caliguy actually worked in the same building as his ex. Trust me, if he can do it, under those conditions, and come up a winner - anyone can. Carhill's signature also used to include a line something like "The one who cares the least has most control". So true...
Feelin Frisky Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 It means no ca-ca-ca-ca-ca-contact. Sorry fo studdering. It's the egg nog.
TaraMaiden Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 is it warm? I love it warm. Don't be mean,.....share......
Author ChillHill Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Wait, where can I find the guide? I searched his name and looked through his journals and what not...couldn't find anything.
cerridwen Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Search > Advanced Search > Search by User Name
carhill Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Hi OP, welcome to LS Here's a thread which lists many of the acronyms used on LS, as well as some general internet-speak. The thread in my signature line is a pretty good guide to the particulars of NC.
Author ChillHill Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 Hi OP, welcome to LS Here's a thread which lists many of the acronyms used on LS, as well as some general internet-speak. The thread in my signature line is a pretty good guide to the particulars of NC. awesome, thanks so much! Everyone seems real nice here
Leandro Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 awesome, thanks so much! Everyone seems real nice here LOL, well most of us are. Some can be a bit harsh, but we all get along pretty well.
Author ChillHill Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 Now i just got to start with NC. It is going to be really hard :\ I hate it so much but there is nothing left I can do. She knows where I am and has my number. I'm pumped up about it in a weird way. I'm moving in a month and I won't be telling her I can't wait for her to realize how much she screwed up
cerridwen Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 Welcome ChillHill. As Leandro said, most people are nice here but there are some grumpy, insensitive ones. Thankfully, they're in the minority . There IS something exciting about taking control of the situation rather than letting it bat you around. I can say from experience NC works but can sometimes be rough. If you start weakening, just post here for support.
carhill Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 NC is gaining a healthy perspective and feeling positive about the decision made to separate and/or end a relationship/marriage. It's acceptance. I'll give you a little tip about women. Generally, overwhelmingly, when they go, they go, especially if they dump you. Even if they 'realize' they made mistakes, screwed up, whatever, they move on to other potentials, other men who validate them and cause them to feel desirable and valuable. This happens quickly, generally. You become, if you're lucky, nothing more than a distant memory. Worse, and reflective of how the R/M might have been in reality, you're nothing. This does not mean they still won't have *contact* with you, but rather is indicative of how they *feel* about you. Successful NC results in all of this not mattering. The dynamic becomes irrelevant. It's a great feeling
Author ChillHill Posted December 8, 2010 Author Posted December 8, 2010 You all have been great already, the amount of answers I've gotten since I joined TODAY has been overwhelming thank you.
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