Dating 2010 - Year End Review

[Cee]

Since it's December, countless lists of year end reviews are popping up. So I thought I'd look at my past year from a dating perspective.

 

New Year's Eve 2009/2010 - Met a guy at a bar and had a midnight kiss. Went on a date and he was the strangest person I've ever met. He's from New Jersey yet had a British accent & wore a tweed trench coat and bowler. He acted like a character from a Victorian novel. Very affected.

 

June 1- Reactivated OKC profile and tried the online thing again.

 

June-August- Dates with multiple people. Fell into a depression.

 

Sept 1- Disabled my profile after getting gutted by one too many college professors. Depression immediately lifted.

 

November- Dated one person, but I wasn't attracted enough to him. It went quickly to the friend zone.

 

December 31- Will be ringing the New Year in Berlin, Germany. Going on a trip by myself. Single and fine with it (at the moment).

 

So what were your high and low points? How would you review your year in dating or in your relationships?

[tigressA]

Oh goodness...my year has been very...um...full. I'll try to sum it up here.

 

New Year's 2010: Spent the weekend with a guy I met online and then later found out he was also seeing a coworker. Didn't feel like competing, so broke it off.

 

On-and-off from January-June: Dated a guy over a year younger than me. He was really into me; I was more lukewarm about him. I kept breaking it off and then trying again hoping that I'd end up on his level. When I wasn't with him I had a couple of flings.

 

March: Had a couple of dates with a guy who then blew me off.

 

May: Fling with a 'too-busy' PhD. student I met online. We really liked each other but he prioritized his work more.

 

June-July: Phase 1 of my torrid relationship with C. We split after a bad argument.

 

August-November: Phase 2 with C. I broke up with him in early November.

 

Now: Had a 2-date rebound fling after I broke up with C; he blew me off after I slept with him. I've been multi-dating but things have been a bit stagnant.

[SmileFace]

New Year - Spent getting over my ex - Took a three month hiatus from dating ,sex and men . lol

 

April / March - Found myself a **** buddy . Ended up moving 300 miles away in August. So we ended it . Surprisingly we are now friends.

 

August - September - Decided to try online dating .

 

Late August -Started dating a psycho therapist . Which I ended after a couple weeks. Wasn't ready for anything serious.He was a great guy . We only matched mentally. I mean we could talk for hours.

 

Mid October - I took a three week break from dating . Then started dating an engineer. Slept with him too quick. By my standards. He didn't respect me and was controlling. So I ended it.

 

Late November - Went on a couple of first dates but nothing to write about.

 

December - Talking to a new guy . I don't really approve of his profession but it is just a date . So when we both find time I will be seeing him.

[xpaperxcutx]

Can't categorize my timeline, but I had way too many flings and FWBs this year. Started an OKC account and then disabled it after 2 months. Went on an appropriate break for the rest of Summer and Fall.

 

Currently reinstated my account but not really looking for anything serious.

[Woggle]

Another year of a great marriage. The start of the year was kind of bad because I had a freakout but I came out of it stronger and more sure than ever.

[Surrealist]

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[fishtaco]

^^^^ hahaha!! Sorry.

 

Jan - Sep: Couldn't get over my ex. Got some random numbers and had a couple of FWB's, one ended early this year (started from last year), and one ended about middle of the year.

 

Sep: Finally reached closure, started going out and being a douchebag

 

Sep - now: here are the significant ones:

- Pleasant girl - met her in Sep, started dating her in Oct. She went cold end of Nov, about to give her the let's be friends talk.

- Nice Butt Girl - a friend of mine. I started cranking up the flirting in Sep. She plays very well in the grey area, she's obviously a veteran. So I was forced to back her into a corner for resolution, and she turned me down. But I consider that mission accomplished. The only time I'll play ambiguous is when it's my choice to do so. We're still friends. I know how to handle these situations gracefully.

- Facebook girl - hit on her last year, didn't go anywhere. She suddenly started stalking me on facebook, so I asked her out. Lasted late Oct to early Nov, suddenly she had a boyfriend. I guess I was the just-in-case guy.

- Single mom - knew her from 4 years ago. Apparently she has liked me for 4 years. Started dating her Oct, had sex with me right away - I know LS people say that's a bad thing, but I don't care, she earned points with me. She is still in the running, and I like her a lot. But being a single mom and lives far away, there are logistic considerations that we need to work though before anything serious can happen. I'm willing to give it a shot if she is. But in the mean time, I'll continue with my douchebaggery.

- Trophy girl - Hit on her this weekend. Hottest chick at the club. Got her number, haven't called yet. We'll find out if it's a fake number real soon.

- Dark Eyed Girl - Planted the seed, haven't hit on her yet. She asked me to go to a club tonight, where she's going to be at, but unfortunately I'm busy tonight. I'll have other opportunities. Once I reach closure with Pleasant girl, I'll activate this one.

[Knittress]

Jan 2010 - drunkenly kissed two people at a New Year's party. (this is already two more people than I kissed in the entirety of the previous year)

 

October 2010 - made out with a few folks and was felt up while dancing at a Halloween party.

 

November 2010 - Blown off by lame friends AGAIN, run into an old friend in the park. Am surprise-ambushed by sex. Lots of sex.

 

December 2010. This sex thing is pretty regular - that's awesome! Handholding too! Happy. Too bad I'm moving soon... :/

[northern_sky]

Dec 2009 -- April 2010: in serious relationship with 4-year-younger guy. Thought things were perfect. He told me he wanted to marry me have kids with me, said he never wanted to be with another girl. Dumped me out of the blue for no apparent reason. Broke my heart.

 

May-Aug 2010: Tried over and over to convince him to take me back, but it didn't work. We had an on-again-off-again FWB that tortured me. Finally, he stopped talking to me completely one day, again out of the blue, and told me he would never speak to me again.

 

June: Went on random date with guy who I met while looking at places to live. Got drunk beforehand and blacked out during our date, had to be carried out of the bar. Never heard from him again. Also, my bike got stolen that night!

 

July: Started an OKC account, prowled a lot and chatted with a few guys, but didn't actually meet anyone in person until early September.

 

early September: Went on three dates with a really weird guy from the site. He was very cute and smart, but shy, awkward and cold. He didn't like me apparently and ended up trying to turn me into a bootie call. I didn't contact him again after the third date.

 

Late September - early Dec: Met extremely attractive and smart friend of a friend. We ended up hooking up at a party and started dating but only casually because he wasn't looking for anything serious. He also turned out to be a bit of a selfish prick. Endless source of frustration. Finally I cut it off a few days ago, but we are remaining friends.

 

Man, does my love life suck.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

I predict the demise of the "Dating" section of LS if this thread continues along the path it seems to be on.

 

Nobody has anything really positive to report so far!

 

(eh, don't worry, it's only Pearl Harbor Day!)

 

(if you're bombed on New Year's Eve, and do something before midnight, it still counts as 2010 even if you're in a drunken stupor afterward for 6 days and don't get your post here until January 7)

 

(so there must still be hope)

[pandagirl]

Dec '09 - Sept '10: Met my ex, and we fell in love. Everything was great.. talked about the future a lot. He had to move, resulting in a LDR. By the end things were so strained, and he broke it off with me.

 

Sept '10 - Present: Getting over ex! haha. Not interested in dating for a bit. More interested in making lots of money and having lots of fun.

[paleblue]

no timeline, just went out on a few dates. met some new girls. it was frustrating sometimes, but it was also fun sometimes.

 

feel like i cleaned up some of the mental clutter in my life and kicked it to the curb ; )

 

feel like i have over come some confusion and gained some clarity.

 

worked my a@@ off on my house.

 

realized dignity.

 

year end is here and i feel ok

[reservoirdog1]

In March, ended a one-year relationship with a woman who had a good heart but with whom things were just too difficult... seemed like she was constantly searching for reasons why it wouldn't work, or creating challenges and issues. I suspect this sprung from her difficult teenage years and overprotective (of herself) nature.

 

A couple of dates in the next month or two that didn't lead anywhere.

 

In June, met a woman online who's 11 years younger than me but with whom I shared crazy chemistry and commonality from the get-go. Almost six months later, and we're going strong, and getting stronger every day. Spending New Year's in Vegas together. She rocks. Life is grand.

[deebeechrisyo]

The following timeline has been pieced together from text message timestamps within my iPhone.

 

January 1 - Mid February: Had a FWB that started towards the end of last year. I told her straight up beforehand that I wasn't looking for a relationship (which she was OK with...), but I could feel the situation was taking a turn for the worse. We remained friends afterwards.

 

Late January - Late February: Hooked up with a girl in the janitorial closet of a bar. We dated for a month but she was extremely flaky.

 

Mid-March - End of April: Met a girl at an after hours bar and hit it off. We dated for a while but there was something off about the whole thing. She did not seem very interested at all, but was very receptive to text messages and date requests. I never did get over what she did on our first date, and eventually backed off for good.

 

May - End of June: Went on a torrid, sleazy bar escapade which included lots of bad decisions, make outs, and general awesomeness! I got a lot of phone numbers but I never pursued them because I was still kind of depressed over my ex of last year.

 

Mid-July - Mid-August: FWB from earlier this year came back. There was more sex and more drama, the usual. There was one point I really regretted, where I actually yelled at her for something she kept bringing up. I NEVER let my emotions better me, so this was quite an eye-opening experience. After this unfortunate event, I decided to put an end to this. I felt bad because I was hurting her.

 

End of August - Mid-October: Ex of last year made an appearance. She kept bugging me to hang out with her, and eventually I caved in. Our "date" was very fun. We were flirting and very touch-feely with each other. The day after, she sent some flirty text messages. It was all very diabolical, as I stopped hearing from her after that. I also found out she had just broken up with her boyfriend, so I put two and two together and figured she was just using me. I fell into a depression again which lasted halfway through October.

 

Late October - Mid-November: Evil deebeechrisyo made an appearance He managed to tie me up in the closet for a while and hit the town. Evil also stands for douchebag deebeechrisyo, as you will soon find out. Still not over my ex, I had the genious idea of taking my frustrations out on the opposite sex. Here are some of the highlights:

 

-- Saw the best friend of my ex-FWB of earlier this year out. Talked with her the entire night (I didn't really even try spitting out any "game"), and executed my patented "grind her butt" dance. Closing time soon came and I somehow got her to drive me home. Alas, my big move of "want to come in? after such a long drive you must be sore and exhausted" failed, and I didn't get any. But word spread

 

-- Was at a good friend's party, and I met this cool girl there. We flirted through the night, and afterwards I grabbed her number, with her saying "call me, we'll have sex". I figured that was a pretty good sign, but my friend told me to hold off because his roommate "has her eye on her" (she prefers the same sex). Being as great a friend as I am, I completely ignored him and one thing led to another and....

 

-- Engaged in several one night stands, nothing too exciting here.

 

Late November - NOW: I manage to find a really cool (so I thought?) girl at a bar. She actually invited me over to her place, but no sex happened (I didn't make a move, please don't crucify me!!!). She actually wanted to hang out with me the next day, and I kind of thought "Wow, this could actually go somewhere!". The next week she was very cold, however, which threw me for a loop. I all but gave up when she booty called me on Saturday. I was totally confused at this point, and once again we didn't have sex. For some reason I wanted to make this more than just a convenient booty call, and I wanted to do this the "right" way or something. Basically I didn't want to objectify her and have sex with her so soon. Weeelllll, she had other ideas of what this was and last week pretty much ended it. I think she figured I was some asexual loser who wouldn't make a move on her TWICE so she lost interest.

 

My most recent experience was taking home a girl on Saturday whose name I never even asked . I was not into the sex and afterwards I certainly did not feel validated, enlightened, or whatever I was trying to prove. My epiphany is that I really do want a relationship.

 

NEXT YEAR: I'm pretty excited. I started online dating last month and I feel like I could do really well there if I put effort into it. I manage to get a lot of women messaging me (I have to say my profile is hilarious), I just haven't ever initiated anything yet. Once I move I will definitely start.

[alexlakeman]

Subscribed so I can read more later ..

 

Hmm, well I think most of us our on here frequently if we don't have a relationship. If not said relationship would consume our time.

 

rolling into 2010....

 

• July 2009 - March 2010 - Great relationship with a LONG term potential relationship, we had some awsome vacations, Toronto, Niagara Falls, Las Vegas, Florida Keys...all while I was juggling to "let's be friends" withe the ex gf.. I ended up cheating on my gf, she broke up, gave me a second chance, I f'd it up..
  

 

Was rolling into depression, finally did when this happened, I think I finally got out of depression (family stuff and this break up was the icing on the cake) in Sept - Oct this year.

 

 

• March 2010 - June 2010 - Dated the rebound, never saw her as a ltr candidate.
  
• May - June - on and off seeing someone from online, just fizzled..
  
• May - Sept - An ex gf calls me up, and we hook up as fwb for this period.. It was great, I really needed someone, but someone that would go away in the a.m., so I could have my alone time, lol..
  
• July - Dec - Went on countless first dates , I am guessing 10-12.. Only 2 interested me as ltr, and one I didn't catch her fancy, and the other? Hmm, can't remember.. I know there was a 2nd ltr potential ..
  
• Dec - gone on 3 dates with a nice gal, pretty face, low mileage, really , really great character, but she has a muffin top
  

 

This year has been the pickiest for me to find someone... In the past I would date someone until the next best thing was found... This year, I've specifically searched for a LTR potential. I don't want to waste any more time..

 

My therapist says I just push them away bc I don't want to get close or something like that...

 

Fortunately sex hasn't been missing, so that has kept me balanced..

[SunsetRed]

Dec 09/Jan 10 dating separated man who says divorce will be final in spring

 

Spring 10-he's "confused" doesn't know what he wants, wants to see other people. I sign up for an online dating service and he suddenly wants to be monogamous and says divorce will be final in July

 

July 10- no divorce but we go on a cruise and have a blast

 

Aug 10- he says I'm the woman he wants to spend his life with, is ready to sign papers

 

Sept 10 soon to be ex wife tells him how much money he'll lose and he decides to "work on marriage" and goes back to her after 3 year separation

 

Sept -now: depressed. tried online dating, makes me even more hopeless and depressed, still trying to get over him. am planning trip by myself for new years

[Mellisa]

My favourite time of the year-getting to the end of it. It's the time you are able to look back on what happened,the ups and downs, the highs and lows,with more peace and perspective,knowing you've gone through them all,more experienced gained and more lesson learned.

 

Besides the stated facts of what happened,what have you learned, dating wise and relationship wise?

[deebeechrisyo]

My favourite time of the year-getting to the end of it. It's the time you are able to look back on what happened,the ups and downs, the highs and lows,with more peace and perspective,knowing you've gone through them all,more experienced gained and more lesson learned.

 

Besides the stated facts of what happened,what have you learned, dating wise and relationship wise?

 

One night stands are pretty terrible for the following reasons:

1. I'm usually intoxicated enough to not perform very well at all.

2. It's all emotionless and usually the day after I feel crappy.

3. For a few days after, I'm paranoid that I caught something despite wearing a condom.

 

I learned that I really need to become proactive in dating. I read Alexlakeman's post just now, and what caught my eye was how many dates he went on in a few month's span. Normally I'll only initiate a date every other month or so with a long spell somewhere during the year. I think online dating will help a lot with this, especially since the quality of girls I've picked up from bars has been, ahem, less than ideal.

[alexlakeman]

On

 

I learned that I really need to become proactive in dating. I read Alexlakeman's post just now, and what caught my eye was how many dates he went on in a few month's span. Normally I'll only initiate a date every other month or so with a long spell somewhere during the year. I think online dating will help a lot with this, especially since the quality of girls I've picked up from bars has been, ahem, less than ideal.

 

It's much easier for women though. If I had the $ and the focus on finding someone, I would've dated more frequently and found someone sooner, but no clue if the # would've changed..

 

In talking with the current woman I am seeing (3-4 dates) she asked me how many dates had I gone on and so obviously I flipped the q back to her; she said I was the SECOND guy she went out with (of course, it could be also the "woman's version of the numbers" lol...) but just first dates we were talking about , so for her I was the second one in two months...and she's interested in pursuing relationship (so am I).. I had to fudge my # heavily and told her, "maybe 4-5, b/c I am not in a rush and just want to find the right person"... I don't know if that seemed reasonable to her, or she probably thought "well when am I getting tossed"?

 

We've shared some vital info, as I feel I am going to give this one a try, even with the muffin top ..if I continue being so picky either I will need two women as b4 (one has certain qualities and the other has other qualities that the first doesn't have) or I will never find the "perfect" person..

[eerie_reverie]

December 31st: spent night curled up on G's couch. G was a co-worker I had recently become friends with. I'd hooked up with (and been out on a date) with his roommate, D, who wasn't home. D had a gf he was in the process of breaking up with, which made me skeptical, but I'd still been hoping to see him.

 

January 1st: spent the night in D's bed. He'd come to see me where I was recovering from New Year's, surrounded by a few friends and lots of new faces. It was such a fun night, the perfect start to a year; the feeling of hope hung in the air and I was drunk on the possibilities opening up before me. Happily, I paraded around in a Santa onesie D brought me.

 

January - August: dated D. I did not trust him, but we had the best time.

 

September: broke it off when he started grad school and I could tell I was about to be walked all over/ cheated on.

 

October: hooked up with a co-worker, but it fizzled out fast.

 

November +: have been reconnecting with a guy I dated years ago, loved very deeply, and still don't believe I will see again.

Edited December 9, 2010 by eerie_reverie

[craw]

3rd October 2009

We meet for the first time. I instantly like him.

Dirty thoughts start brewing. Whatever. Fun party.

 

November 2009

I start seeing him almost every weekend at a mutual friend's house.

My feelings for him grow. Does he like me? I don't know.

Another mutual friends of theirs, just broke my heart - sept 09

Do I want to go through this again?

 

December 2009

Xmas break approaches. I see this as an opportunity to travel. Get away. Forget about him. I go to NYC. Solo. First Time.

 

New Year's Day 2010

He kisses me.

Somehow, through our play fighting, I sent a signal that I liked him.

 

Mid Jan until end of Feb

Am I dating him? Are we exclusive? wtf is going on?

He didn't wish me v-day or even acknowledged the day. lol.

That's cool.

 

May 2010

I'm introduced to his family as his "girlfriend".

Using labels feels weird, but I loved hearing it, when I was being introduced to his family.

 

 

June 2010

Our first road trip, we drive to Boston to see the The Conon O Brien Comedy Tour. It was such a lovely trip.

 

July/August/Sept/Oct/Nov 2010

We go camping, I take him to my favourite music festival, we celebrate my birthday. Labour day, we go to Chicago for NCMF. Thanksgiving, family again.

 

Dec 2010

Mont Tremblant Winter Wonderland Trip.

 

31st Dec 2010

**I booked a four star hotel room in Montreal**

http://www.omnihotels.com/upload/images/hotels/mondtn/property_photos/792/mondtn-pro-0001.jpg

Happy Anniversary Sweetie!

Hope you like it! [/cheesy]

 

sidenote: I sincerely hope everyone finds the same happiness [that I've finally found after 6 years and after many many many broken hearts].

Edited December 9, 2010 by craw

[Crazy Magnet]

Spent the fall of 2009 being the female version of the douchebag...

 

November 2009 I was matched with my now BF on eHarmony but had made a deal with myself that I couldn't get into a relationship until after the new year so the multi-dating continued.

 

NYE I spent with another guy from eH who wanted to be exclusive but I just wasn't that into him. I was into the BF.

 

January 2nd--broke everything off from all the previous female douchebag behavior and pounced on my BF and told him I didn't want to date anyone else.

 

He agreed....

 

July 2010--moved in with BF:love:

 

Currently still with the BF and very much in love. My grandmother gave the BF her ring when we were home over Thanksgiving (I internally freaked out:eek:). Luckily he also doesn't want to move forward on that until after the holidays.

 

 

It's been a great year for me!

[alexlakeman]

Bump, for every to update, as we approach the EOY and for me to update mines as well.

 

Subscribed so I can read more later ..

 

Hmm, well I think most of us our on here frequently if we don't have a relationship. If not said relationship would consume our time.

 

rolling into 2010....

 

• July 2009 - March 2010 - Great relationship with a LONG term potential relationship, we had some awsome vacations, Toronto, Niagara Falls, Las Vegas, Florida Keys...all while I was juggling to "let's be friends" withe the ex gf.. I ended up cheating on my gf, she broke up, gave me a second chance, I f'd it up..
  

 

Was rolling into depression, finally did when this happened, I think I finally got out of depression (family stuff and this break up was the icing on the cake) in Sept - Oct this year.

 

 

• March 2010 - June 2010 - Dated the rebound, never saw her as a ltr candidate.
  
• May - June - on and off seeing someone from online, just fizzled..
  
• May - Sept - An ex gf calls me up, and we hook up as fwb for this period.. It was great, I really needed someone, but someone that would go away in the a.m., so I could have my alone time, lol..
  
• July - Dec - Went on countless first dates , I am guessing 10-12.. Only 2 interested me as ltr, and one I didn't catch her fancy, and the other? Hmm, can't remember.. I know there was a 2nd ltr potential ..
  
• Dec - gone on 3 dates with a nice gal, pretty face, low mileage, really , really great character, but she has a muffin top
  

 

• Balance of Dec - 3 dates was it with the one woman; no sex...I ended up going out with an ex gf mid month, so that allowed me to close the year without a sexless Dec... No particular person I am talking to at this point, just some initial talks with 2 online dating candidates...
  

 

Financially speaking, I will be able to focus on dating and spend more time / $ on finding a potential s/o by 2/11 or 3/11.

 

I was hopeful to have a s/o by NYE, not happening or by V-Day, since I am traveling to Vegas, it would've been the ideal scenario for a new g/f... oh well, probably not happening...

[catgotyourtongue]

1. You have to let some things go, and pick your battles

2. Dating in your 40's is just as hard as dating in your 30's

3. I communicate way better than I use to, yet still am shocked at how badly I communicate at times. Impressed with my growth overall though in many ways

4. When someone shows you who they are, believe them...especially if you feel scared or uneasy

5. Try not to keep blaming your present, for your past and try not to get involved with people that bring the same deep issues you do to the table

6. Grow up, grow up, grow up, and dont waste too much time with people who do not want to make you a priority if you are looking for more. Also dont waste others time if you know they are not for you.

7. Better to be honest and let someone down kindly than try and cover it up with b*****.

8. Dont play games, dont be with players.....dont kid yourself, and dont kids others.....

9. COMMUNICATION : it cant be your way, it cant just be his way, finding a balance without tearing everything apart in process is sticky wicket

10. Dont expect men to be able to communicate at your level, at your pace and your style, and give them some room, time to learn how to deal with you and how you roll...and meet in middle. I try and meet in middle often, but i always think there is room to try harder to meet someone at their level, and work through things, even if you have to bite the bullet more than you want.....

 

** PEOPLE are way more selfish than I ever thought and it saddens me all the time.

 

be kind, be patient, but stop wasting your time and mine, if things are no longer working for either of us....

[OceanGirl]

NYE 2010 - I went to a huge rave with a few friends. It was fun but since I was the only one that refused to take drugs I felt a bit out of place. I met a cute guy and made out with him. This broke a 2 YEAR spell of not being on a single date and not kissing anyone. I was too in love with my boss who was married and will later turn out to be a complete d^ck. What a waste.

 

Jan-May 2010 Uneventful. I was considering making an online dating profile and starting up my dating life.

 

May 2010 - went on a couple of dates with an ex flame who contacted me on the Facebook. We failed to re-connect.

 

June 2010 Made an OKC profile and went on dates with a number of randoms. They all failed to capture my interest.

 

July-September 2010 Met and dated the politician guy. Being away from dating made me make every single mistake I could possibly make. I was insecure, needy, clingy and it showed. He started pulling away at the beginning of September but I held on for few weeks after that. It officially ended when he met his now gf. I was dumped

 

October 2010 Met and dated M. A really nice, cute guy with a very boring personality. He was a decent, good guy and I liked that. We had sex on our 4th date (initiated by me ). I spent a weekend with him and it hit home just how bored I was and how bad sex is with him. I made a decision to break it off. He took it well and even said that he had doubts that we could last long term because of not having much in common.

 

July-October 2010 Dated an assorted number of guys while solidly dating politician and M. I was never exclusive with anyone so I didn't feel it was cheating.

 

November 2010 - Went on a couple of dates with a troubled, emotionally unstable guy who made bunch of promises and then ended up going back to his ex W. I felt crazy chemistry with him and was gutted.

 

November-December 2010 - Dating rampage continues, didn't meet anyone I really liked though.

 

July-December 2010 - Went on 3 dates with musician guy who ended up falling for me hard. He never really let it go and I still get e-mails from him about how much is missing me. He was a nice guy too, I just didn't feel sexually attracted to him. He keeps wanting to catch up "as friends" constantly. I gave in once and he ended up crying and asking me why I don't want to date him

 

In summary: I went on close to 30 first dates and it didn't really pan out with anyone. That's kind of depressing.