ryan152 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 We broke up mutually for college on August 18th. Shes in Georgia and I am in Florida. It is 5 hours apart, but it was doable. It was possible. She just doesn't think long distance is possible or right, I think it is because she got over me. She has a new boyfriend after 2 months. She keeps texting me now and again and wanted to be friends. But I am starting to hate her. Shes putting me through all this pain. 16 months of how much she loved me, and now all of a sudden nothing???? I have been doing no contact for just one day. This is the second day. And I had told her that it was because of finals. I don't know what to tell her cause I am going to see her over break. Every part of me just wants to blow up on her and say how I meant nothing to her and how horrible she has been treating me/treated me. I would have and did do anything for this girl. Now she won't give me the time of day cause she has someone new helping her through all of her problems. I just want to forget her. So bad. I'm tired of hurting.
SlawKing Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 So don't see her over break. Don't talk to her anymore. If she's used you up and moved on to someone else then don't let her still use you for friendship. **** her. She's not worth your time.
fiat500 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Don't see her over break. Get your dignity back. Let her call or text you and don't respond. Use winter break for healing yourself.
fiat500 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 you can't be friends with someone who just dumped you. they will always see you as nothing right away. this is a guarantee. you have to disappear from them with the intention of never looking back.
pureinheart Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I hope this doesn't sound out of line..if it does it's not meant to:). I'm going through the healing of a break up and it sucks, BUT, I need to do it. In fact now realising that I never healed from a previous relationship from about 10 yrs ago. Sometimes I think our purpose in the other persons life is finished for some reason...either they see something in us that is not compatable or vise versa. I would encourage you not to hate her, and ask that you think about the possibility of not wasting anymore time on a relationship that will either go no where, or doesn't meet your requirements...life is too short:) ((((hugs)))) and take care
reservoirdog1 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 It's hard to let go of somebody when they're still holding on to you. The breakup you described doesn't sound like it was totally mutual. You thought the LDR could work, she didn't. And she got a new BF after two months. It's not fair that she expect you to be her buddy right now -- you're dealing with the pain from all of this. Expecting friendship from you is selfish. Total no contact -- permanently, or at least until you're totally over her -- is your best option now. She won't like it, but as you say, she "has someone new helping her through all of her problems". Ignore her texts and calls henceforth. Or at the very most, send her one more text saying you can't be in contact with her right now, and wish her well. Then stick to it. Time and distance are your best friends right now. Good luck mang...
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