What's up with this guy?!

[DuskCrush]

Ok, so I was trying to fish and see if this guy had a girlfriend.

I asked him about his weekend --> he laughed and said he was busy with work all weekend (this is actually true) and left the room. He seemed delighted that I asked him but I was kinda confused because he didn't ask me about my weekend and he left. So strange.

Then, he came back 15 minutes later and asked me about my weekend (which was an indirect way of asking if I had a boyfriend).

I was like - it was nice. I just relaxed.

Then I was like: You should try and relax too.

Then he was like: Thank you. Maybe after January I can relax.

Then I was like: What happens in January.

He was like: End of project. (this is true. I have an external source)

 

Still, I am so confused by the conversation.

Why did he leave and come back instead of just asking me about my weekend?

But my main questions is:

 

Was that a polite rejection?

Thanks.

[DuskCrush]

somebody...respond...

[murah989]

This is one of those situations where its impossible for the readers to accurately understand whats going based on just merely script.

 

You may be just over thinking the situation because you already have pre-conceived notions that this guy already has a girlfriend. Asking about each others weekends is not a solid answer on finding relationship statuses.

 

This is way I see this conversation...

 

"I asked him about his weekend --> he laughed and said he was busy with work all weekend (this is actually true) and left the room."

 

He decides to use the bathroom taking him a total of 5 minutes, and then receives a work related call that takes 10 minutes...he comes back into your room.

 

"So how was your weekend??"

 

What I'm really trying to say is, just relax. If you're getting caught up on simple conversations like this, its going to get even WORSE for you once things do start to heat up. You're not too deep into this to really start questioning his motives. Not only that, but by getting worked up you're sending him a negative vibe. This can lead to you getting very nervous and having awkward conversations ( which may be a turn off for him).

[DuskCrush]

Thanx for the response...I think you're right (concerning the girlfriend part) and the fact that I do need to relax.

But the second part --concerning hanging out--it was for me an indirect way to ask him to hang out...and I felt he was indirectly telling me he was too busy.

[AlektraClementine]

Try being a little more direct. Saves so much time and anxiety!

[SignalFlare]

Not much to go on here, but if I had to guess I'd say he left because he was a little uncomfortable talking to you. The fact that he returned 15 minutes later and continued talking to you means he's probably interested.