Sprig Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I was hoping I could get some insight on the girl I'm sort of seeing, but not really sure where her head is at. We met through an on line dating service, she contacted me which doesn't happen very often. We got to chatting and found we had simliar interests so we set up a date/meeting. She lives about an hour and change away from me, I drove out to see her. The first date went great we both had a great time, we did some geocaching and I bought dinner in a local resturant. At the end, I gave her a hug. Second date was just as good, did some more geocaching and this time I made a lunch picnic lunch (Wine, cheese, fruit etc) at the end I gave her a hug. We didn't see each other for almost a month after that, because she was sick, her mom went into the hospital, working odd hours and the long distance drive etc.. We finally got together this past weekend when I drove out to see her, we were together for a couple hours, We once again did more geocaching and ate out again. However since I am the one doing all the driving and always picking up the tab for meals I asked her if she wanted to pay for lunch and I would get dinner (as we sort of planned on going to this steak resturant) She stumbled over what to say, but did say eating out twice in one day might be a little much. So as it ended up we each paid for our own lunch. We went out for maybe another 2 hours geocaching before she said she was tired, this being at 4:00pm (She was up at 6:30am). I drove her back to her place and we chatted a little bit in my truck and just before she was about to leave I asked her if I could get a kiss good bye, She got a little flustered and said "I don't know" then said that she could give me a hug instead. I'm not sure if I caught her off guard, or if she just thinks of me as a friend, or is isn't ready yet for a phyical relationship, or maybe there is some back ground that I don't know about??? I know most of you would say that she just thinks of me as a friend and nothing more, however if we were just friends why would I be always buying lunch and dinner? I mean most people when dinning out together with a "friend" would insist on paying their own way. But she never made an issue about this. I should mention that we are keeping in regular conatct, through texting and the odd phone call. Before I even got home I got a text from her asking if I got home alright, then another a couple hours later about a posting I made on a web site we both belong to. She also comes from a small community background, where faith and family are really important. On our first date she wanted to pop in to say hello to her grandmother who was ill as well when her mom was sick she was with her every day for 10 hours (took time off work). So I don't think she is using me in that way. Thoughts?
Seamless74 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 bad.. bad... bad.. those were the first 3 things that came to mind..
lovebitme Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 She also comes from a small community background, where faith and family are really important. [/i] Some peoples religious beliefs cause them to shy away from kissing so soon. I know, I've dated a couple of them in my life. If that's the case with this girl then you need to tread lightly. Don't ask for a kiss again. As you get to know her I'm sure you'll have the opportunity to casually bring it up in conversation and find out how she feels about it. Or just wait until the perfect moment when she's giving you the signals and go ahead and kiss her. Get what I'm saying? It's not a marathon and there is no rule that says you need to kiss her by the third date. Or, she's just not into you dude.
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