lovelearner Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I always suck at LDR since I'm the kind of woman who likes/needs a lot of attention, at least daily or so. My husband and I are in a LDR, we are in different countries and there's a half a day time difference. He's just back there and hasn't spent much time with his families and friends there for years, he's both getting settled down there again and catching up with the life there. But it's not that he's too busy since he's not working yet. I hardly ever hear from him, but if I tell him I need to talk he'll get online and we can skype for a few hours and everything seems fine. I asked him why he never initiates any contact, he says he doesn't need to talk as often. I just don't feel good about the situation he never initiates any contacts, I think part of the reason is he knows I'll contact him every 2 days or so anyway. Am I expecting too much?
folieadeux Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 There’s really no answer to your question in all honesty because every person requires different levels of communication. My SO and I are in pretty much constant contact throughout the day, which most people would deem a bit excessive I’m sure, but it works for us. We talk less on the weekends because he’s away playing shows and comes home long after I’ve gone to bed most of the time. I find it troublesome that you say you hardly ever hear from him unless you initiate contact. It’s good that he’s secure in the fact that you’ll always contact him, but that’s not how a relationship of any kind should work. It should be about give and take and it seems like you’re getting the short end of the stick. I would definitely recommend talking to him about how you’re feeling. I don’t mean to use it as an excuse, but I’ve found that men, in general, need to talk less than us women do. So to his credit, I think what he said was the truth. However, if your needs aren't being met, then you guys have to work on that together.
OrdealByFire Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 LDR's are hard enough when you're in the same timezone ... but wow... I know I could never do it personally with that time difference. I have a hard enough time with a girl that's only 80 miles away.
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