amystar Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I don't know how I should confront him and I've been trying to get opinions all over. Heres the story. I know my boyfriend a year and we have been dating 9 months. He told me that he was going back home for the holidays and even took a month off from work. He has called me a few times a week pretending to be there and tells me how much he misses me and how down he is. Like a fool I believed him, until last night when I was on facebook and saw photos that he was tagged in. The photos are from this Thanksgiving and they were taken with a girl and her family. He is posing with the girl as if they are a couple. From what her facebook profile says she's 19 and my boyfriend is 30. He added her on facebnook a week before Thanksgiving. I was shocked because this family lives right here where I live and he is obviously not miles away visiting his family. The girls facebook wall is open to the public and from what I can gather she is a customer of his. I spoke to someone from where he works today and he told me the girl came into the store for the first time when my boyfriend added her on facebook, about a week before Thanksgiving. The other thing is that my boyfriend removed the tags on the photos from his facebook page about an hour after they were posted, so now the only way to view the pictures are on the girls page. I don't know what to do. I haven't slept all night and I'm dying to confront him, the problem is I don't know where he is and he said he's not going to be back until January. I don't want to wait until he calls me. I want to confront him right now, but don't know if it's wise to confront him over the phone or via email. He obviously thinks he got away with it by taking the tags off the pictures, but I saw them. The other piece of info I should say is that he suffers from depression and he was cheated on by his previous girlfriend over 3 years ago, and when we first went out he had a lot of trust issues. He also doesn't get along with his family ( So I was supsicious that he would go home to visit them) He doesn't like the holidays and always refuses to to celebrate them with me and usually he would stay home and I would visit him - so why would he celebrate with complete strangers and a girl he barely knows. I feel so hurt and betrayed and disgusting. I don't know what to do. I just want ot tell him that I know about the pictures even though he took the tags off. I feel like such a fool knowing that he is with this teenager and he's lying to me. The scary thing is in the pictures he looks so disturbed, almost like he thinks this is one big joke and that the girl he's with is an even bigger joke. His face looks so different from how he poses with me, almost like he's faking the smiles. I'm horrified and don't know what to do
Knittress Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Wooooooah. Really? Crap like this HAPPENS? Man, I'm sorry!
phineas Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Tag pictures of your boyfriend with you so SHE see's them?
hoping2heal Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I don't know how I should confront him and I've been trying to get opinions all over. Heres the story. I know my boyfriend a year and we have been dating 9 months. He told me that he was going back home for the holidays and even took a month off from work. He has called me a few times a week pretending to be there and tells me how much he misses me and how down he is. Like a fool I believed him, until last night when I was on facebook and saw photos that he was tagged in. The photos are from this Thanksgiving and they were taken with a girl and her family. He is posing with the girl as if they are a couple. From what her facebook profile says she's 19 and my boyfriend is 30. He added her on facebnook a week before Thanksgiving. I was shocked because this family lives right here where I live and he is obviously not miles away visiting his family. The girls facebook wall is open to the public and from what I can gather she is a customer of his. I spoke to someone from where he works today and he told me the girl came into the store for the first time when my boyfriend added her on facebook, about a week before Thanksgiving. The other thing is that my boyfriend removed the tags on the photos from his facebook page about an hour after they were posted, so now the only way to view the pictures are on the girls page. I don't know what to do. I haven't slept all night and I'm dying to confront him, the problem is I don't know where he is and he said he's not going to be back until January. I don't want to wait until he calls me. I want to confront him right now, but don't know if it's wise to confront him over the phone or via email. He obviously thinks he got away with it by taking the tags off the pictures, but I saw them. The other piece of info I should say is that he suffers from depression and he was cheated on by his previous girlfriend over 3 years ago, and when we first went out he had a lot of trust issues. He also doesn't get along with his family ( So I was supsicious that he would go home to visit them) He doesn't like the holidays and always refuses to to celebrate them with me and usually he would stay home and I would visit him - so why would he celebrate with complete strangers and a girl he barely knows. I feel so hurt and betrayed and disgusting. I don't know what to do. I just want ot tell him that I know about the pictures even though he took the tags off. I feel like such a fool knowing that he is with this teenager and he's lying to me. The scary thing is in the pictures he looks so disturbed, almost like he thinks this is one big joke and that the girl he's with is an even bigger joke. His face looks so different from how he poses with me, almost like he's faking the smiles. I'm horrified and don't know what to do That is effed. Been there, done that. He told me the girl was his roomate and best friend. I was young, dumb, and stupid. Pretty naive so. Keep in mind that you have been told he was cheated on previously, you don't know if that's true. Since he seems to be able to lie so easily anything is possible, really. I'd be prepared for him to lie to you again.
hoping2heal Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Wooooooah. Really? Crap like this HAPPENS? Man, I'm sorry! Sure does. Went through that 10 years ago for around a year, also
amagordos Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Well you know you must confront him. If I were you, I would break it off. This guy blatantly lied to you. You shouldn't waste your time with him, and don't let him know that you cried for him, just tell him that you deserve better. You could ask for an explanation, but his actions are pretty much a giveaway that he lied and cheated. If you can't contact him, don't bother, wait till he finds you. I would wait until he contacted me and then I would let him know.
DuskCrush Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. This guy is obviously a big time liar! I don't know what to tell you. Just dump him and move on. It will hurt but not for too long.
angielove Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 What I would do: Set your facebook status to single. If anyone asks, you are single. Don't contact him at all. Just delete him from your life - from the internet, phone etc. Essentially, dump him without telling him. Then move on. And never look back! But then again, I'm very unforgiving like that
phineas Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 What I would do: Set your facebook status to single. If anyone asks, you are single. Don't contact him at all. Just delete him from your life - from the internet, phone etc. Essentially, dump him without telling him. Then move on. And never look back! But then again, I'm very unforgiving like that Yeah, i'm a bridge burner also. Hell, I blow it up.
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