blahblah89 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 so here is the back story. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now. I know it doesn't seem like a long time but in the gay community, it kind of is. at the start things were a bit rocky, being sexual and stuff because of my insecurities but i got past that and it was great. sex a few times a week. The longest we ever gone without any type of sex was 10 days and it killed us. Growing extreme close to our 1 year mark, we had amazing sex! (atleast i thought it was) then it turned into a dry spell. its been months since we last have been sexual towards eachother. We thought that we just need some spice! so, we tried 3sums. a few actually.. and to my honest i enjoyed it, because it was time i got to spend with my bf sexually. After that eposide.. nothing. Not even a little touchy touchy. He gets offended whenever I hint onto something sexual involving the both of us. The lack of sex has turned and developed into other issues: Trust, him not thinking of me a sexual, lack of sexual desire to be with me. So help me shine some light on this as i am lost in the dark. Have you ever been through something similar to this? Any advice? - blahblah89
creighton0123 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Blah, Any update on this? I've had this happen to me a few times. My first long term relationship lasted 8 months. Towards the end, I no longer found him sexually attractive. A relationship a while back that lasted four months ended when we both agreed the same. If you two were women, I'd call it lesbian bed death... Still, to bring in a third person this early in the relationship may indicate relationship problems. I'd sit down and have a heart to heart with your man. Let him know that you are still very much sexually attracted to him, but have concerns that he doesn't feel the same way, that you miss the affection, the romance, the passion and simply want to know if he still feels that towards you. You feel lost in the dark - understandable given your situation. Either way, you're never going to find the light without some good, solid, calm communication. You may not like his answer. He may say that he no longer feels attracted to you. If that's the case, you should calmly move on and think of your time with him as a wonderful relationship that so happened to end successfully. Please give us an update. I'll subscribe to this thread so I get it by email. -Creighton
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