on1wheel Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 You are miserable, your fault. You are hurting your F*CK buddy, your fault. You will definitely be hurting your W when she gets an STD courtesy of you, your fault. You will also most definitely hurt your kids when you go through what will no doubt be a nasty custody battle...Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned remember. I am not sure what you were hoping for coming on the Infidelity forum, but a lot of us are as innocent as your W isn with our only mistake trusting someone with absolutely no moral integrity. For what it's worth, your W would be much happier w/o you, so do her a favour and divorce her. You should feel great shame for you "I want to have my cake & eat it too" approach to marriage.
scatterd Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Being a wife I would be more then happy to move on then have my husband cheat and lie.Their plenty of honest and good men out there let your wife go and move on.Go be with the OW and see what you think when the newness wears off you really are treating them both bad.You say you care more about the OW so be with her.
uncool Posted December 9, 2010 Posted December 9, 2010 Congratulations.... as an unhappy married man I'm jealous of you having somebody who actually communicates with you and shows you affection. You didn't talk about your wife at all in your post... but I can only assume she blew it somehow with you and doesn't show you she loves you or else you wouldn't drift. Am I right? Usually if men had decent wives who loved them, showed them affection and communicated with them... we wouldn't even want to look at another woman. I think you can marry your girlfriend. She sounds like somebody who actually cares about you. Your kids will thank you later for being up front w/them. It's not like you wont see them every week or be their dad. I think it's more damaging for kids to not see their parents having a relationship.
apple25 Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 I think 99% of the time when you post something like this you are going to get the person who has been cheated on posting some mean response back. I don't think your a horrible person. People marry the WRONG person sometimes. I cheated on my husband it's so wrong I know but it happened. What made me realize that I shouldn't be with my husband anymore is that I felt more for my lover than I did my husband. Your not doing your wife any favors by staying and pretending to love her.
LifesontheUp Posted December 11, 2010 Posted December 11, 2010 Its time to get off the fence PK......don't drag this on.
love4me2c Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Congratulations.... as an unhappy married man I'm jealous of you having somebody who actually communicates with you and shows you affection. You didn't talk about your wife at all in your post... but I can only assume she blew it somehow with you and doesn't show you she loves you or else you wouldn't drift. Am I right? Usually if men had decent wives who loved them, showed them affection and communicated with them... we wouldn't even want to look at another woman. I think you can marry your girlfriend. She sounds like somebody who actually cares about you. Your kids will thank you later for being up front w/them. It's not like you wont see them every week or be their dad. I think it's more damaging for kids to not see their parents having a relationship. I completely disagree with this. In my situation, I begged for answers about what went wrong, how could I have been a better wife, etc. and the only thing he told me was that it was depression on his part that led him astray and that I was a good wife. So that is a very bad generalization. Also, he wanted desperately for me to stay. I couldn't forgive it and knew it wouldn't work for me.
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