I think I messed up with this guy anything I can do now?

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Hi. I have been working with this guy on a project online for several months. We have been talking back and forth since then but have just recently started flirting. We have been flirting but we both have been saying that we are building a friendship. We started chatting privately online and have been trying to get to know each other. However, he neglects to tell me much of anything about himself explaining that he will "soon". Yet he seemed to have been pressing me for info himself.

 

He called me on the phone a few weeks ago and we had a nice talk but then I think I made several mistakes since then that turned him off. I came on too strong. I sent him emails telling him how much I liked him and I thought that I definitely scared him off. He has not called in a few weeks and I thought that he would not even chat anymore. He did get back online but only said a few things....Hi how are you? etc...at all times during the day. He would, however, just sign off without saying anything as a habit.I had figured that I either scared him off or he was married until he showed up online the other day and said "You should come to visit". I really messed up here b/c I got excited and said yeah that would be fun. He said that we will plan it then.

 

Well I really have wanted to get out of town and I thought it would be nice. A few minutes later I realized that this was a mistake. Not only have I not gotten a chance to know him well enough (I assumed though that since he asked me to visit he would definitely open up before then) but he should be the one to visit me. I would not really like him to visit me at the moment b/c I am taking care of my mother now and am living with her (He and I are both in our 40s). I do realize, however, that I at least would have preferred him to ASK to visit ME.

 

Well I obviously messed up because that was a few days ago and I have not heard from him again (he usually at least say hello to me online). Yesterday was the first day he said nothing. I also did not say anything to him online yesterday as I thought it best to back off a bit (even though I wanted to explain myself). I feel very foolish about this and know that I should have known better.

 

What I want to know is is this salvageable at all? At the beginning of us talking he expressed that he adored me, thought I was beautiful and that he loved talking to me and I had a great sense of humor, etc..I really messed up by letting my guard down I know. What can I do? Why has he not contacted me online even to say hello since this was brought up? Is he out of the question for me now? I really miss talking to him.