twistedsoul Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 need a bit of advice and stumbled on this website, where do i start....im single and a few weeks ago (yes weeks) a co-worker made a play for me, what followed was a few inuendos and a lot of flirting and at one point almost sexual contact, her husband is away in the navy and she told me not home until next september also she is dealing with the death of a friend who she was going to leave her husband for.(confused? yeah me to) last week we had a nice week i went to hers, we kissed and touched but nothing major. we spoke about seeing each other this weekend, but on saturday morning she rang to say husband was on his way home. which i took my cue and said im here but wont contact you.sunday she text to say she was okay...and she would talk to me later. sunday night ..nothing today at work by e-mail i just asked how she was to which i got the reply, "i dont want to talk about it my head is all foggy" nothing has happend between us, nothing major, but my feelings over these weeks are strong and right now im confused as hell. i dont think im looking for answers, i just dont know what to do myself.
Owl Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Well, she's married. She's clearly struggling with her actions with you...my personal suggestion would be to help her deal with that struggle by ENDING any further personal interactions between the two of you. Tell her that you understand that she's married, and that you want to cause her no further confusion...and end it.
Author twistedsoul Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 thank you owl i did do that last week and she assured me that the marrige is dead in the water, but what you said is right, many thanks.
Hazyhead Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Twisted, it's good that you're examining this at this point. So many (myself included) are so easily drawn in and only think later. If you pursue this with her it is most likely that mess and drama will ensue. Maybe not immediately, but it will. Think of the long haul, do you want that drama in your life? Sure, at this point it's exciting and sexy and you may be able to keep a little distance but you will fall - I think you already are a bit. My advice: don't go there (again). Leave the drama to her.
desertIslandCactus Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 TS, Aside the fact that she is M. The spouse is away defending our country... Isn't even around to defend himself .. Perhaps a woman may feel neglected with a husband in the service, but I think there is every reason to stay away from a woman whose H is away, and sacrificing in this manner.
Author twistedsoul Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 hazyhead, your right also...she is a very lovely women who i have to admit has got under my skin and i think this is why my head is up my own arse a little, by rights i would normally laugh and say thanks very much but no thank you...but for some reason i have let her get that little bit to far...but yes your right and after a few weeks to stop it now would be easy than to see it destroy me in a few months years ect ect.
Hazyhead Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 hazyhead, your right also...she is a very lovely women who i have to admit has got under my skin and i think this is why my head is up my own arse a little, by rights i would normally laugh and say thanks very much but no thank you...but for some reason i have let her get that little bit to far...but yes your right and after a few weeks to stop it now would be easy than to see it destroy me in a few months years ect ect. So you got it... now all you have to do is do it! Don't get sucked in believing stalling tactics or any pleas to talk some more. Be strong. Cut her off. Find yourself a single woman to let under your skin. Good luck.
fooled once Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Well, she's married. She's clearly struggling with her actions with you...my personal suggestion would be to help her deal with that struggle by ENDING any further personal interactions between the two of you. Tell her that you understand that she's married, and that you want to cause her no further confusion...and end it. Twisted, it's good that you're examining this at this point. So many (myself included) are so easily drawn in and only think later. If you pursue this with her it is most likely that mess and drama will ensue. Maybe not immediately, but it will. Think of the long haul, do you want that drama in your life? Sure, at this point it's exciting and sexy and you may be able to keep a little distance but you will fall - I think you already are a bit. My advice: don't go there (again). Leave the drama to her. Owl and Hazy said it all!
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